The modern pastortute is a really bad system.
Just like a woman cannot make a man out of a boy, so a pastor cannot grow Christians into the Spirit and maturity.
A loving mother, for all her passion and love for her children will always fall into over protection, instilling fear and incompetence in her children. This is not because she is evil but because she is a woman.
Women instinctively choose low risk; low conflict solutions and men do not.
Men do high risk, high reward things, and so if left to your mother you will be weak, fearful and incompetent.
If mommy had a bad experience with her father and her husband, she will then be even more committed to try to make women of her boy.
A man who submits who to a woman is a failure and even the women he submits to will ultimately be disappointed and impoverished by his emasculation.