Well lets look at what scripture says
It never says directly that God:
- loves the nations around Israel
- hates the nations
- hates any person other than Esau
- loves individual unbelievers
- hates individuals
What is does says very clearly is that God:
- loves Israel
- loves the church
- loves "us" (the believers)
God commands us:
- to fervently love him
- to fervently love one-another
- be kind like the Good Samaritan to all