What challenges have you experienced being the Listener and how did you work through the challenge?
Nancy
Challenges of being a listener
1.. What to be more Proactive versus Reactive
In EC my head is in a certain place. I set everything aside and I focus on that. And I can set those aside in the Listener role. It’s easier because it’s my job to listen in the empathy circle.
It’s different in normal life with my daughter for example. More difficult end up giving advice and problem solving.
2. Emotions I have associated with the other person. Want to manage them according to who I am talking with.
It’s easier to deal with the emotions in the empathy circle structure.
Emotions can block the empathic place.
Better to be able to prepare.
Ingrid
Love listening to Nancy. Really related to what she says.
Started writing and make me get distracted in listening
Reminds me of a story. Teacher demonstrated listening and reflection. I want that. She said.. Be with them and the words just come out.
It was shocking.. You almost lose yourself when you are with the speaker.
Listening to husband in an challenging discussions. If I can be in that empathic space, I hear it in a gentler softer way and I don’t get defensive. This has brought about a big change from before.
Consciously Stepping into empathic Space
Listening to husband in an challenging discussions. If I can be in that empathic space, I hear it in a gentler softer way and I don’t get defensive. This has brought about a big change from before.
Mimi
When I try to talk about empathic listening it is like trying to talk about coding. It’s disappointing.
They will like to understand. But they doing understand it. This is like another language.
Try to do this with my students with second language. Trying to do this with Greeks. I was at a lose for words.
I don’t take no for an answer.. So I try to come up with tools to teach them. I become a better listening to teach better.. I Want to show them a better way of communicating.
CNN has been talking more about empathy. This is good news.
Lewis
I have to own that my opinion got heard in my youth..
Learned to speak for 60 - 90 minutes for public speaking. For expression.
For coaching you need to learn to listen.. Need to be quiet.
This is true in all relationships and communications.. Wife said shut up.. Stop selling me. I love you.
Speaking to listening…
Resisted to the controlling aspect of this process.. This is an opportunity to have the skills if you want to use them.
Got failed in listening. Just stay with the listening.
Edwin
Want more awareness of the listening space and what is going on.
Listening for the essence of what is being said.. The details can fall away. And there is a field of an energy that forms..
Is it better to focus on one question or have multiple questions.?
- the feeling of listening .. painful.. Burns the brain.. Is it monotone. I will not be able to express.