Jessica
You're welcome Edwin.
I did take some notes and can share them Saturday.
As just the listener 90 min felt fine and I also recognize it was getting into the juicy stuff toward the end.
I agree that 2h is needed. I'll know next time to better organize myself.
(I also did not know there were 4 people involved, I thought there were only 2)
My rough notes:
- went well overall - happy to co-facilitate next time if needed
- clarifying it is not a back and forth discussion
- facilitator can inform people that he/she will interrupt to offer some guidance, don't be surprise by it and we're here to make mistakes and learn
- facilitator can specify that reflecting back does not mean you agree
- when you listen, it is not about you (refrain from giving your opinion when it is not your turn) but about the person who speaks to you
- maybe explaining why we make them choose who they want to speak to?
- how to avoid 2 people just going back and forth and others can't participate, do we need to establish a clockwise kinda thing instead of making them choose who to speak to?
- can the listener take notes?
- using "I" statement when speaking, and "You" statement when reflecting back
- when reflecting back do not say "He" "She" said, but reflect back to the person directly and say "I heard you say ..." or something similar
- refrain asking questions?
- 3 minutes was actually a bit more, maybe just 2min or 2min and 30sec ? or doesn't matter?
- I liked the feedback in the comments on your website (forgot the guy's name)