Why Against EC - Dialog

Excuses for not taking part in an Empathic Dialogue, Empathy Circle or Restorative Empathy Circle

People create all kinds of reasons and excuses for not taking part in a dialogue with others, especially those they are in conflict with or have different views with.

For addressing conflict

• 1. I don’t want to give the other person attention.

  2. If I listen and empathize with them it means I agree with them.

  3. The first necessity for reconciliation with an abuser is for the abuse to stop. The other person is an abuser. I will not talk until the abuse stop.

  4. Bill: The other person is a lier, I don't want to talk with then.

  5. I've talked with them before and it didn't help.

  6. Sofia: I don’t feel safe

  7. Ray: I want to protect other people from being harmed. It's not safe for other people.

  8. I’m right I don’t need to talk with then.

  9. People who talk with them might change their minds.

  10. Trauma, I don't want to open up past trauma.

  11. This is all about you.

Empathy Circles feels like a performative space inviting manifestations trauma, than a safe and healing space.