EI for Young Adults: Discussion 43

Procrastination

I am productive some days but 3-4 days a week I am procrastinating.

Procrastination may be caused by lack of motivation. When we do something that's not aligned with our core needs or desires we lost motivation.

Tips for avoiding procrastination:

• Focus on personal growth. If your job is not moving you forward, find time in your life to focus on things that matter, that make you grow

• Focus on something that gives you energy. If your job drains your energy, you need to know how to set boundaries with your boss so you have time to take care of yourself.

• Respect yourself, give yourself rest.

You are the most important person, for you. Respect and love yourself, create time to take care of yourself and grow.

Close friend passed away

My partner's friend committed suiside. He feels incredibly guilty for not supporting his friend. How can I support my partner?

Your partner's guilt is his to deal with. While you can be supportive, you are not responsible for his guilt. He may need space to deal with his guilt and his sadness. All you can do is be there for him. Sometimes it's not about what you say to him, but just physically being there for him. 

It is a traumatic experience, to go through your friend's suicide. Time may heal it, but there may be some things that can help:

• Talk about your friend, bring up the good memories. The person who died would want his friends to smile and remember the good things

• Write a letter to your friend, even if he is no longer here. This may allow to get all piled up emotions up and may alleviate the pain

• Talk to other people

• Help others. Going through such painful experience expands who you are, allows you to be big, with more capacity for love, share this love with others