Emotional Intelligence

2017

During the last class we covered the following

Opinions vs. Facts. Often we interpret things differently from what reality is. For example a crying old lady doesn't mean that she is sad, maybe her grandchild was just born and these are tears of happiness.
The difference between feelings and emotions. Feelings is what one feels inside while emotions is how feelings are expressed. Sometimes we feel sad but we hide our feelings and don't show it with our emotions.
Feelings and needs. Feeling bad is an indicator of not having something that we need. For example when I am irritated with my homework it may be an indication that I need understanding and clarity, but I don't have it. And vice versa, I feel good because I have what I need. When I offer a candy to my friend and she takes it, I feel good because I fulfill my need for contribution and friendship.

Most of the session we worked on trying to get better at understanding the feelings and underlining needs.

We started with single statements

Then we continued with role playing simple dialogs

MOM: What are you doing watching youtube? Did you finish your homework?

SAM: Just a few minutes mom, the clip is almost finished.

MOM: No "few minutes"! Turn it off NOW!

SAM: Come on! What’s going to happen if I get to my homework in a few minutes?

MOM: There are rules in this house. Work goes before play. Got it?!

(Takes away her phone. Sam runs away, crying.)

Mom: feeling annoyed, then angry. needs order, peace of mind (for Sam to grow up responsible)

Sam: feeling upset. needs fun, independence

We also watched a couple of Eralash episodes to learn about feelings and needs of the main characters:

The Uncomfortable game continues! This weeks challenges are:

Every challenge is worth 2 points. If you complete all challenges you get extra 5 points.

Of course you can continue recording every time you do something out of your comfort zone, this counts as 1 point.

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