But Nicholas* is smoking cigarettes when he’s on duty taking care of my sister! Sometimes I see the smoke going right into her!” My daughter, with a tracheostomy, acute allergies, and chronic lung disease, was cared for while I was at work by Nicholas, an Aupair from a Scandinavian country. He was referred to me by his sister, who was another au pair; she was good and I trusted her. John struggled to get up, got his bearings, and then asked me if he could have a hug. He said, “We are a family of huggers.” I was a bit surprised but returned his hug and Anne Marie gave me a hug too. Zack smiled and headed into my kitchen. John and Anne Marie drove away in the VW Bug and Zack finished installing my new garbage disposal within 45 minutes.