I worked for IT company,
Just after my marriage
I used to travel for office,
Assignment five days a week,
I was loaded with deadlines,
My salary was credited every month,
And people called me” independent” woman.
After some time,I was blessed with child,
Raising child was a big pleasure for me,
I decided to leave my job for few years,
To raise my child comfortably,
I used to stay at home,
Worked for the husband and family,
Cooked for them,
I used to decide what they should eat,
So that they could have control,
Over their health and happiness,
Took care of the children,
Monitored their growth,
Behavior and their education,
Helped them with with their study and life,
And tried my best to build their overall best personality,
Managed the expenses of the house,
I was happy with my selfless contribution to family,
Up to my surprise,
People called me “dependent” woman,
I got impression that people consider,
This path of woman,as something like act of slavery.
Being mother and home maker,
I searched the dynamics of same,
The fundamental problem here was,
People measured ‘being independent’ woman with only money,
‘I earned money, so I was named as ” independent” woman,
My opinion is no, I was not. I was only financially” independent”,
After some soul searching I concluded,
To start with, marriage is all about being inter-dependent,
Husband brings in some value,
And wife brings in some value to make the,
Marriage beautiful experience for both of them,
This ‘value’ need not be always money,
It could be time, service, management, comfort etc,
There is nothing wrong in being a house-husband,
Or house-wife as long as their partner is okay with it.
Being” independent” is just one fancy imaginative term.
A family, corporation, or any ecosystem sustains,
Because the people inside are inter-dependent,
I wish society understands this basic philosophy,
And stop woman labeling as “independent” or “dependent” woman,
And respect her for her selfless contribution to family,society and nation,
And name her as “nation” pride.