Week of 10/15 - 10/18
Week of 10/15 - 10/18
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Dear HKMS Families,
At Open House this year, we talked about the stress of parenting. For the past twelve years as a school administrator, I have given advice to students and parents about how to navigate these tricky years. Now that my own daughter is an adolescent, it is clear to me that following parenting advice at home is way more challenging than offering it!! We launched this year with the mantra “Never Worry Alone!” I want to tell you about a stressful parenting experience I had this week and my takeaways. Now more than ever, I feel so connected and understanding to all of you as parents now that “middle school” lives in my home!
Before the pandemic, my daughter Cassidy began taking piano lessons with a wonderful Yale professor Julie. During the pandemic, Julie relocated to Seattle, and lessons continued via FaceTime. Somehow Julie was able to maintain and develop a virtual learning environment that exuded caring, growth, and love of the music. Over the years Cassidy learned to read music, play the basics, and even started voice lessons. This has been wonderful since her school does not offer music classes. Beyond the music, Julie became a “trusted adult” for Cassidy. They often discuss the stresses of school, friends, family, sports and finding balance. Julie always starts lessons with a check in, reflecting on big events for the past week, all in an effort to make sure Cassidy is in a good place to learn before jumping into the music.
This year, Cassidy has just not been “into” her music lessons. Where once she eagerly practiced and performed with friends, it had now developed into a chore. My wife and I not only had to remind her to practice, but when she did it, it was with reluctance and resistance. Julie was picking up on the increasing stress too. Cassidy’s increased school work, and her swim team requirements meant something had to give. Have you ever felt this way too? The feeling that you are constantly nagging your child to do their “extracurriculars? It was a negative loop in our house.
In my “principal brain,” I know that Cassidy would benefit from a couple of more years of playing piano so those neural pathways she had been developing could solidify in her adolescent brain. On the other hand, I also know that it's great when kids do not overly specialize in an activity. But living my own advice is turning out to be much more challenging than giving it. My principal brain wanted to mandate that she continue, but everything I am learning about the toxic overachievement culture told me that it was time to follow her lead.
After several long conversations, and an article I made Cassidy read about adolescent neural pathway development (she loves my articles!), Cassidy decided to take a “few months pause” in her music lessons. This next parenting decision turned out to be the one that resulted in an amazing learning experience. My wife and I only asked that SHE have a conversation with Julie and one last lesson to provide some measure of closure. I needed her to experience the emotions connected with an appropriate separation from a trusted human and a skill she has worked on for six years.
If you have even done this with your child (e.g., helped them to quit a team, your family relocated, or even attend a funeral), you know that the experience of saying goodbye is emotional, tears were shed on all sides. But they were tears that honored this special relationship that is moving into a different phase. Putting the onus on Cassidy to share her decision with her teacher and explain her thinking was a challenging yet rewarding moment. Julie’s response was beautiful, “You will always have a place in my heart, I will always have time in my schedule for you, and when you need me, for music or just some to talk to, you can always call me.” I truly hope that Cassidy does find her way back to Julie, while it would be great if it was because her love of creating music returned, I have more hope it is for the emotional support she will need from an adult (other than her parents) through these middle school years.
As Jennifer Wallace describes in Never Enough, parents are not supposed to raise their children themselves. We are supposed to rely on each other. We need a support village too. Our upcoming PTO Coffee we will be launching our book club with a bit of a tease about Never Enough and how Ms. Wallace’s thinking can be applied to our own lives to take the pressure off of having to be (or appear) perfect. I hope you can join us next Tuesday 10/22 at 9:30 a.m. in the HKMS library. No need to have read anything, we will be previewing the book with some brief videos, lively conversation, and coffee!
Wishing you all a wonderful weekend!
Sincerely,
Steve Clapp, Ed.D.
Grade 6
Our young mathematicians were busy tackling area of 2-dimensional objects as well as the volume of 3-dimensional prisms this week!
In Spanish class, students accessed a variety of apps to acquire vocabulary for various household objects.
Grade 7
Coefficients, operators, variables, constants, and terms...I thought this was math? The vocabulary of algebraic equations and expressions is key to understanding how these problems are solved. By using a combination of direct instruction, group work and individual support, students developed their understanding and applied these concepts to several examples this week!
Mrs. Rose's students shifted over to the writing room this week as they crafted their UN Sustainable Development Goals position papers.
Grade 8
Harrison Bergeron by Kurt Vonnegut may be the most challenging short story students read while at HKMS. This week Mr. Jockers prepared students to tackle this compelling and lofty text with some pre-reading activities designed to help them understand some of the vocabulary that Vonnegut uses as well as make some predictions. Throw in a few Puns of the Day, and you have a great week of linguistics in ILA.
Next door to Mr. Jockers, Mr. D'Agostino is also having the students read a very challenging and essential text, The Declaration of Independence! If you thought Vonnegut was challenging, try Jefferson et, al. as they use the power of long run-on sentences to declare independence from England on July 1776. Students will have to use their historical knowledge, as well as all their reading skills to understand the nuances of this founding document.
FPAs
Throughout the trimester, Mrs. G helps each student create a digital portfolio of their work. She also compiles the images into one slide deck that shows off every students work. As we crossed our first progress point (P1) she has published the first collective portfolio of the year. Enjoy!
Often the true measure of progress in a music class is playing a piece without having ever seen it before, also called "site reading." Check out the video of this grade 8 band class successfully performing a site reading of an Old English piece of son ____ (c. 1400).
NEW CLUB ALERT!
COMING IN JANUARY!!!!
What is way better than going home and playing video games? The ECC!
The Easton Community Center's Teen Center offers amazing afterschool programs designed to engage young adolescents. We have a group of 20-25 students who walk over everyday. Please check out their offerings at: https://eastoncommunitycenter.com/teen-center/
Our local VFW 10059 is sponsoring HKMS to participate in this years "Patriot Pen" Essay Contest on the theme "My Voice in American Democracy." The images here are linked to the online submission forms and additional information. I hope we have lots of students show off their writing skills this year!