Tips to Inspire child

Collect good moment, but be careful about deciding what is good moment

A good moment in childhood inspires him when grown up. If it is funny moment, it will inspire him in the sadness. If it is achievement, it will inspire him to get risk and go beyond his current limit. Even a seemingly small achievement at tinder age may actually be big considering his age. So, try to identify achievements carefully.

Moreover, some moments are better captured in the form of small clips and others are in the form of picture. Some good moment may be good enough to write-about. Whatever the way, try to think which mode suites best to capture this moment. Its not about delaying in capturing moment. However, with practice, our instinct will help to decide right mode immediately.

Reward child only for good activities

When child does some activity, he feels happy. However, due to tender age, he still not clear if others like his activity. And so, he wishes for other feedback. If he receives good feedback, his brain records this activity and strengthen the neuron link as well. When he gets good feedback repeatedly, then the activity becomes habit.

With the same logic, if child repeatedly gets good feedback for his bad activity (beating someone, throwing items etc), this bad activity becomes habit. It is observed by many parents and here I tried to explain why it is happening.

Don't confuse Child with your feedback

When child expects feedback, don't be in hurry. Note that child is learning from our feedback. In case, he sees mixed feedback (sometimes good, sometimes bad), he gets confused. Confusion in child's learning is fine for short while. However, if it persists, then child will not able to learn. Also, he may stop showing interest on person who confused him. This is one of the reason why parent complains that his child is dull and not showing interest in learning what parent wants.

Explain correct answer of child's question

Sometime, parent thinks that child is not ready to understand the answer. And so, they try to make up some story and explain. The child believes it as true and records in his mind. Later when he understands right answer, he gets confused. Now he is in fight within himself to accept what he learnt in childhood and what he is knowing now. It brings lots of pain to overcome the childhood learning. So, it makes sense for parent to answer correctly to child. In case, answer is more complex, then it will be good to involve child to get the answer. In this way, child will try to find answer himself and also parent can buy time.

Encourage kids to explore, do mistake and learn from these mistakes

Sometime, parent thinks that explaining kids not to do mistake helps them to do things in right manner. However, we should understand that whatever kids are doing is new for them and he is in stage of learning. Put myself in mirror and ask whatever we learn till now is without any mistake. These so-called mistakes are actually stepping stone to know what is right. Thomas Alva Edison(inventor of bulb) proudly accepts "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."

One thing we should always remember. Let mistake happen. However, never allow mistakes to repeat itself.

Reference

Personal experience

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