By Mark Driscoll
Proverbs 12:4 - An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.
A good wife is like a crown on hers husband’s head.1 Cor. 11 She is a glory to him. But a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones
So women need to determine which team I am on, which camp do I align myself with. Am I a crown or a pain in his neck, am I decay in his bones. The imagery there is harsh. It is as if a man has an incurable disease that is eating his bones, eating his flesh, and robbing him of life and slowly, painfully, debilitating him, and robbing him of his existence. And it says some wives are just like that. They are like a disease that decays a man. They kill him, they debilitate him. They rob him of his strength and his life. And you can tell by looking at some of these men that they have some sort of incurable disease. Then you look sitting next to him is that disease and she is wearing a ring. And he seems he can't get a cure to overcome the ills that she brings him. Proverbs says there are many woman like that. They are a disease, they are decay, they are rotting him. They bring death. And conversely, there are woman that are crowns, they are glorious. They are strong, they are wise, they are helpfully. They are in every way a blessing. And you can tell looking at those men as well. You can see at lot of their confidence is taken from their wife's affection. A lot of their skill and ability has been nurtured by their wife's support. And a lot of who they have become is because of the nurturing of their wife who loves them very dearly and has invested a great deal of herself into that relationship and into that man.