Unexpected Tragedies

Unexpected tragedies are not uncommon in this day and age. Events such as severe tornadoes, fires, floods, and severe accidents,  can all be types of unexpected tragedies that touch us in some way. These events can make us think and sometimes, cause us great distress. There are also more personal unexpected tragedies that can take place on a individual level.  We can know someone who has personally been effected by one of these events and struggle with knowing what to do to help. We can experience a tragedy ourselves like a death or severe illness of a loved one and struggle with how to cope.  

Signs and Signals for Self Monitoring

Depending on the situation,  you can probably manage to go about your days without much difficulty.  If you know anyone involved, or anyone who was touched by a tragedy in some way, it may be more difficult for you.  It can also be difficult if such an event reminds you of something else that has happened to you or your loved ones.  Below are some signs and signals that you may be more seriously effected by a tragic event. 

Increased worry, anxiety, or panic                                         Feeling Numb

Difficulty sleeping                                                                 Wanting to keep track of family and friends

Lethargy                                                                              Helplessness and Hopelessness

Questioning the point of everything                                        Feelings of sadness

Fatigue                                                                                Crying

Sleeping too much                                                                Feeling unsafe     

Increased agitation                                                               Increased use of substances

Racing thoughts                                                                    Lack of or increased appetite

Nightmares                                                                           Memories of past tragedies/losses

The above list is just a sampling of different responses that we can have when an unexpected tragedy occurs.  It's also important to know that you don't have to physically be a part of a tragedy in order to have some of these responses.  We can have them if we know people involved, if we see or hear too many of the images and stories on the news, in the paper or on the radio.  We can have them if we have experienced something similar.  

Seeking Out Support

Having any, or even many of these responses for a short time is not unusual, but if you notice that you are having difficulty getting through your day, you may want to seek out support. Support doesn't need to come from a counselor.  Talking to friends, family, teachers, RAs, RDs, or a doctor, can all be other great ways to get support.  If however, you are feeling like you are having a more difficult time than feels natural, counseling is a good option. 

Some of the most helpful things you can do for yourself is reach out to others and talk about what your experience is at this moment.  Think about and use those people in your life that you know will support you and always have.  Be available to those in your life that may need extra support and listen.  There is no magic wand that will take away the pain people feel when a tragedy occurs, however, feeling connected and supported makes it much easier to move beyond a crisis.