Social Anxiety

Don't like crowds.  Have difficulty meeting new people.  Struggle with working in groups.  Don't like to speak up in class or talk to teachers. Feel like others will judge you.  Heart races even just thinking about going somewhere there is people you don't know.

Social anxiety is a very real thing that creates very real feelings and thoughts.  You may have always known that you were socially anxious and you don't want it to get in the way of your college career. You may have never noticed or experienced feelings of social anxiety because you grew up with all the same friends throughout your life and arriving at college, with new people, new ways of doing things,  makes the feelings arise.  Either way, you're not alone and there are plenty of ways to break through the social anxiety so you have more confidence and control. 

How to Make Friends in College When You're Shy

(Below information taken directly from an article posted on everydaylife.globalpost.com)

Step 1

Head to your college's student union, grab a cup of coffee and observe others interacting and talking. According to Dr. Bill Knaus, writing for "Psychology Today," watching people interact with others provides examples of appropriate social interaction you can mimic when you are ready to make your own friends.

Step 2

Visualize walking up to another student and introducing yourself. Think about what you might ask: Name? Major? Living on or off campus? Practicing in your mind gives you the confidence needed when you have the same conversation with a real person on your next visit to the student union.

Step 3

Head to the gym and exercise. Not only may you meet others who share your love of fitness, according to Mayo Clinic, exercise reduces anxiety and improves mood partly due to the release of endorphins. Therefore, your run on the treadmill will likely curtail your negative feeling of shyness in the first place. After a good workout, your happier state will improve your chances of making friends.

Step 4

Volunteer with a service organization sponsored by your college. Consider joining a volunteer group that puts on campus events, builds homes or cleans up parks in your community. Spending time with other college students places you in an environment conducive to making friends with those who share your passion. In addition, having an activity to complete as you get to know others reduces the amount of talking required if you are nervous about striking up conversation with people you don't know yet. With time, this will get easier and hopefully lead to a core group of friends.

Step 5

Invite a few people from one of your classes to your apartment or dorm to study. In addition to giving you a little added security in the comfort of your own space, a small group allows you to get to know classmates who, in time, will become your friends.

More Information

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