In Chapter 8 of Onward, Elena has us sit and have conversations with envy. Her definition of this emotion is "pain over something you don’t have" and makes the clear distinction between it and jealousy, which she defines as the "fear of losing something you already have." She emphasizes that envy happens to all of us. It is deeply corrosive to our well-being and resilience and relationships when it goes unchecked. When envy surges through your system she encourages us to examine it, understand it, and face it head-on, using compassion as a tool. Envy is uncomfortable and can be very painful, but it may be giving us a clue about the changes we need to make in our life so that we can be happier and more resilient.