John 11:17-20

The faith of Martha: V. 17. Then when Jesus came, He found that he had lain in the grave four days already. V. 18. Now Bethany was nigh unto Jerusalem, about fifteen furlongs off; V. 19. and many of the Jews came to Martha and Mary to comfort them concerning their brother. V. 20. Then Martha, as soon as she heard that Jesus was coming, went and met Him; but Mary sat still in the house.

The journey from that section of Perea where Jesus had been staying to Bethany took about two days, and when Jesus therefore reached the town, He was greeted with the intelligence that Lazarus had been in the grave four days. The burial of the dead in warmer countries must take place very quickly, lest decay set in.

In the house of Martha and Mary there was a large assembly of mourners and sympathizers. Since the distance from Jerusalem was only fifteen stades, a matter of about two miles, many Jews from the capital city had come to the sisters to express their condolence in their bereavement.

It seems that Mary and Martha had a host of acquaintances, if not of friends, in Jerusalem. The days of deep mourning lasted for seven days, during which it was forbidden to wash, to anoint oneself, to put on shoes, to study, or to engage in any business.

Just as soon as the news of Christ's coming had been conveyed to Martha, she left the house to meet Him. She was eager to hear words of comfort out of His mouth; for mere men cannot take away the sorrow of death. But the comfort and sympathy of Jesus is of a nature to drive away all the piercing pain or grief. If people, in every bereavement and sorrow, would only turn at once to the consolation of the Lord's Word, there would never be the severe after-effects of unrestrained grief after the manner of this world, 1 Thess. 4, 13.

Mary remained at home, sitting on the ground or on a low stool, according to Jewish custom; for all chairs and couches are reversed at the time of the burial. It was not merely her sorrow and distress that caused her to remain at home, but likely the fact that she wanted to give her older sister, the mistress of the house, the first opportunity to talk to the Savior.