Misogyny and Confusion

I had a friend named Jeff who got raped as a child by his stepfather and hated his mother for allowing it to happen, which hatred he generalized on all women. He said that having a penis gave him the power, and that he would treat his woman like trash.

Jeff, and others like him: This is for you.

I ask one question and one question only. Why would a woman be with you? Most likely it is because she likes you and cares about you. Are you going to reward love and care with violence and ugly behavior? And what kind of incentives does this set?

Most women do not give a damn about you, and they won't give a damn about you. To them you are just another loser. Whereas the woman who's with you is a woman who likes you and cares about you. Which means that it's foolishness to be ugly to her. It's like burning one's own rainforest until there is none left and the place turns into a desert. All this does is make it harder for the woman to love you; meanwhile the nasty women who have done things to earn hatred are not affected at all.

A man who hates his mother, or who has ill will to women, should not be doing it to his wife or his girlfriend. He should be doing it to women who actually are doing wrong. If he does it instead to a captive audience, that does nothing to change the world. He is just mistreating someone who likes him while doing nothing to women who have done wrong for real.

It is valid to be against toxic feminism or unloving, uncaring parenting; it is not valid to be against women as such. And it is especially not valid to be ugly to a woman who likes you and wants to be with you. Yes, there are bad women. But one does not have to be with a bad woman. In most such situations, the woman is a good person and gets attacked wrongfully when she herself is not guilty of anything at all. A woman who is a bad person would have nothing to do with a man such as Jeff; and the woman who would is not a bad person.

There are misogynists who are simply jerks; and then there are men who are confused. I have nothing to say to the jerks. To the confused, I would like to point them in the right direction and away from errors that can be life-ruining. A woman who is with you is not the person you want to attack. And doing that only has you pissing in your own pool and making life unnecessarily ugly for yourself and the people who love you.