I am tired of being accused of things that I am not. People have portrayed me as a racist, as a homophobe and as a misogynist. I am none of these things. Some of my closest friends are black, I have friends who are gay, and I generally get along better with women than I do with men.
I say generally. That is because there is a large harpy constituency among women who hate anything male and also hate women who are beautiful and nice. Me standing up to these people is not misogyny; it is a labor of love. I have seen wonderful women being treated horrendously by these "feminists" who kept maliciously attacking their character, discriminating against them in the work place and teaching men of goodwill to avoid them, leaving them with no one to go to except violent, genuinely misogynistic men. These feminists have a lot of blood on their hands. They have ruined many lives. And in no way does seeing them for what they are qualify as misogyny. It qualifies as loving the women whom one loves enough to risk what these feminists have to dish out so as to improve the lot in society of the kinder, nicer, more beautiful women.
The person who cries wolf at all kinds of things that aren't wolf loses her credibility; and that is what we see with these feminists. By portraying everyone as a misogynist or an abuser they have made not credible the women who are actually being abused. This has resulted in courts refusing to believe women who are genuinely being mistreated. And this has hurt - and continues to hurt - innocent women all around the world.
Another thing that continues to hurt innocent women has been the nasty and abusive conduct by these misandrists. It has made credible for many people the misogynistic statements in the Bible and the Quran, resulting in a global resurgence of aggressive misogyny. This comes squarely on the shoulders of the women in Muslim and Christian settings, who, although they themselves have done nothing wrong, get conflated with the wrongdoers. The women who have done the least to cause these problems become scapegoated for them. This does not hit the misandrists. It hits innocent women all around the world.
One does not need to buy into a wrongful direction in feminism in order to be in favor of women's rights. Women being able to have a life outside the home is progress; women being treated better at home is progress. But women becoming shrill, nasty and malicious is not progress; it is an aberration. These feminists have taught women to be mean, cruel and abusive, while doing everything in their power to ruin the lives of women who aren't these things. They taught women who listened to them to become the worst women in the history of humanity. And they have done everything in their power to ruin women who won't be such things.
Mistaking equality for sameness, they have destroyed positive qualities that are more natural to women than to men. And yes, there are such qualities. There are places where women and men are similar - in their capacity for will and intelligence; and then there are places where women and men differ - in their emotional and sexual natures. To deny the second as part of achieving equality in the first is an aberration - an aberration that impoverishes people's existence. People should be able to enjoy and to avail themselves of both natures, not just one or the other.
It is this direction that actually has the possibility of improving women's lives in a meaningful way. Denying neither part of human nature, but giving both a constructive fruition, will create complete human beings and a complete experience of life. The volitional, intellectual nature will affectuate in women having fulfilling lives outside the home and having more power in society; the sexual and emotional nature will affectuate in women having fulfilling sexual relationships and family lives. Women will be able to have complete existence, rather than a semi-existence. And that actually stands to improve the lot of women, as is the premise of feminism - and as the feminists of whom I speak simply fail to do.
Let there be no mistake. These feminists aren't benefiting women. The women who are actually being abused, they treat with contempt and blame for what is being done to them. They mistake their cruelty for strength, their nastiness for intelligence, and their insulation in their academic groupthink for understanding of reality. They do not speak for women however much they may claim to speak for women. Women have not voted for them to speak for them. And it is ridiculous that these feminists think that they have the right to speak for 50% of humanity.
Some ideas belong on the dustbin of history, and that includes the ideas that are so errant as to portray me as a misogynist. These women don't know what a misogynist is. A misogynist is someone who hates women as such, not someone who is against an errant direction in feminism. And the more these women cry wolf about people who are not misogynists, the less credible they become for when an actual misogynist comes along.
Whereas what I propose is something that fulfils the entire human nature, both its intellectual-volitional and sexual-emotional component. I propose equality in society based on the fact that intellectual-volitional nature in both men and women is the same. And I also propose fulfilling and loving relationships in which men and women get to enjoy one another and, more importantly, to produce and sustain new life. In which situation the job of feminism will be to help women overcome abuses both in the workplace and at home.
And that would be a far more viable and beneficial direction for feminism to take.
Of course doing this will require real work; which many among feminists do not want to do, as they are quite happy to attack people who have had nothing to do with abuses perpetrated against women while having no guts to reach the actual misogynists. Their stance is similar to that of black people who attack city liberals just because they are white. Attacking people who have goodwill toward them, they strengthen the case of those who have ill will toward them. And that results in those of ill will gaining power in politics and society.
This hurts women badly; and the women who get hurt the most are women who are the least in the wrong. It is the women who like men enough to be with men and have goodwill toward the male gender. It is the women who are kind, beautiful and warm. It is the best specimen of womanhood that one can find.
Someone who actually is in favor of women's well-being will stand up to ill treatment whether it comes from violent men or malicious feminists. And then the task will be to take a feminism to a better place. Women will benefit from having a full life - both inside the home and outside the home - with protections against those who would mistreat them.
Taking that direction actually has the chance of improving the lives of women around the world.