1-on-1 Dialogue

Who will conduct the one-on-one dialogue?

1. • Sector/Area Leaders with Cluster/Chapter Leaders

   • Cluster Leaders with Chapter Leaders

   • Chapter Leaders with Unit Leaders and Chapter Couple Coordinators

   • Unit Leaders with Household Leaders

   • Household Leaders with members

This is done between brothers and between sisters. For example, the Chapter Head and the Unit Head go into a dialogue. The Chapter Head's wife and the Unit Head's wife go into a dialogue. By discernment and prayer, there may be matters that need to be discussed together.

How will the one-on-one dialogue be conducted?

1. • The basic guidelines for conducting a one-on-one dialogue found in the manual should be followed.
     
     

   • At least three days before the scheduled one-on-one, give the leader below you a copy of the Self-Evaluation Form and ask him to answer the questions in a spirit of prayer, humility, and honesty. He should then give his back to you before the start of the one-on-one. After the one-on-one, return it to him.
     
     

   • After the opening prayer and preliminary conversation, start by asking the leader how his personal life is doing -- his relationship with his wife and children, his job, financial challenges, etc. Make sure that you are not being too inquisitive and invasive, but take the opportunity to know the leader in a deeper and personal way and see how you can be of help to address specific challenges.
     
     

   • Together, go through the accomplished form item by item. Affirm the member for the tasks that he has done well. For the tasks that he has not done or has not done as expected of his responsibility, find out the reason(s). Emphasize the importance of doing these faithfully and the consequences of neglecting them. Work out with him solutions to his problem(s) and ways by which you can help him. Try to assess if the problem has something to do with his attitudes as a servant. If so, deal with it accordingly.
     
     

   • After discussing item by item his answers, ask if he has any other concerns regarding his service that he wants to bring up with you. If you have other concerns about him or his service that has not been covered yet in your dialogue, now is the time to bring these up.
     
     

   • The tone of the dialogue should not be inquisitive, as this is not meant to be an investigation but an aid to helping the leader grow in service. Be loving, encouraging, and uplifting, but be firm also if there is a need for correction.
     
     

   • Do not discuss business dealings during 1-on-1 sessions.

     1. • Please do not discuss business dealings in CFC events especially household meetings, 1-on-1 sessions, CLP sessions, and chapter prayer assemblies. The same principle applies in bigger CFC events. This is to avoid issues that result to members not attending the events anymore. If you have any questions, please consult your Unit Head or Chapter Head.

Use the CFC Covenant to answer:

• How has my transformation been over the past year(s)?

• What can I do to improve my faithfulness to the CFC Covenant?

• How can my household head (household leader) help me to improve my faithfulness to the CFC Covenant?

Click to open: Pastoral One-on-One Dialogue Guide

Click to open the form: Self-Evaluation Form for One-on-One Dialogue