I formulated this rule from the concepts expressed in a book called Choosing Clarity by Kimberly Giles.
Illustrations
- Martha felt like her neighbor hated her because of her dog that sometimes got out of the yard and make messes. Because of this she avoided the neighbor for years. She eventually became good friends with them and realized that the hate was all in her head. The fear prevented her from seeing the situation clearly and she missed out on years of friendship.