Why is it so important to use people’s names? A person’s name is the greatest connection to their own identity and individuality. Some might say it is the most important word in the world to that person.
It is the one way we can easily get someone’s attention. It is a sign of courtesy and a way of recognizing them. When someone remembers our name after meeting us, we feel respected and more important. It makes a positive and lasting impression on us. To not remember a name, especially when someone has had to repeat it several times, is to make that person feel slighted. Source: Washingtonpost
Our names are an incredibly important part of our identity. They carry deep personal, cultural, familial, and historical connections. They also give us a sense of who we are, the communities in which we belong, and our place in the world. This is why mispronunciations, misuse of our preferred/common names, or misgendering can negatively affect and possibly hurt and impact a sense of belonging on campus. The undeniable truth, however, is that these things will happen. Many times individuals whose names and pronouns are used in the wrong manner are put in the difficult position of approaching, correcting, and calling in folks. Instances of mispronunciation and misuse of preferred names and pronouns can be experienced as microaggressions. (ouch!) Source: UBC Equity & Inclusion Office