social issues

Insults and curses: general facts

Indecent insults and obscene words among people on a daily basis express an expression of discontent, anger and hatred without anyone realizing their true background. Some say insults without knowing their meaning or they are usually raised on them and the tongue repeats and uttersthem automatically, such as parrots. But there are some words that are difficult to say or write, but we hear them every day on the streets and television and read them on the Internet. It is strange and weird that we see some sort of reasonableness in generation of these obscene words, every day we hear new insults added to the dictionary of old curses. familiar

Methods of Insult:

1- Through verbal speech openly and publicly

2- Expression can also be stated through expressions, gestures, sounds and actions. One movement can humiliate others and cause repressed in front of people. their feelings to be hurt and

The motives of insults:

Why do we curse and insult others and what are the motive??

There are many motives that make us insult or cause indecency to others:

1- Social environment: where the children or the human beings in general get the obscene words that they learn from their environment. Each environment has its own way of expressing insults. If we look at the poor and uneducated environment are composed of sexual insults, while they differ in the higher classes, where they denigrate the economic and material aspects concerning clothing and food.

2- The feelings of internal repression: one can be insulted because of jealousy, we tend to humiliate a person and make others despise him and make ourselves the best..

3- Feeling inferior: If someone is at a higher level than others in the position and rank produces in us insult and humiliation because of the sense of lack, and the discharge of energy through insulting others of highest level.

4- Misunderstanding: Insults happen because of the misunderstanding of the other for the result of their uttering misuse terms of language, for instance.

5- Reaction: insult occurs as a result of something done by the other, therefore, compels one to show insult without thinking.

Defects of insult:

The verbal abuse has many organic and psychological harms, including:

1- It is considered as a discharge of what is inside and not a cure, it does not help to solve the problem, but exacerbate it even more.

2- It causes wound to the feelings of people, it is possible for the abuser to forget the scourge of his abuse of the other, but those who are insulted will never forget it.

3- The person will face the curse of social aversion and he is not accompanied by none but only by his like.

4- Because of an insult you may lose many opportunities in life and also your affection and your relationships with others.

5- The abuser cannot be a good model in front of others if he is a husband or a wife.

6- Insults hinder dialogue and prevent communication in a correct manner, insulting is an aggressive way to express what is in mind.

7- Insults distort the image and character, offensive language can distort the appearance of the user and makes him lose respect for others.

8- Insults weaken the personality, the abuser may think that he is vigorous and has a strong personality, but in fact he lacks it

9- Scolding affects our bodies, so hearing or uttering insults directly leads to sweating hands.

10- Ignorance, the wise can avoid obscene things, to show his good and real character and impose his respect on others.

11- Insult is considered to be killing others verbally, morally, psychologically and socially, killing not only by physical weapons, but another weapon stronger which is tongue. The weapon wounds the body and with time it will heal and recover, but the bad words and curses of the tongue hurt the soul and will remain a sign throughout the life

Prevention of insults:

If insulting is often a discharge of negative energy in the person who insults, it is better for this person to learn how to replace his negative energy with a positive one. If the insult is a result of misunderstanding of the other, then the person should develop the skills of effective communication with others, and solve the conflict peacefully, then deals with negative thoughts in a useful way, hence, people do not have to resort to abuse and use foul language.

Treatment of insults:

Does the insult have cure? Is it a disease that we must treat and purify ourselves from it? In itself, insult is a disease that we must find the most effective medicine to get rid of, as the saying goes: "Every disease has a cure." It is a disease like all diseases that can infect us, but the difference we choose that disease to affect us, but physical diseases affect us in terms beyond our awareness. Is it reasonable to choose a disease for ourselves? we like to catch

Some steps that can help to cure the infection of insult and get rid of permanently:

1- Self-confidence, no matter what you lack, you should know that there is no perfect person or person who owns everything.

2- Accept the shortcomings and defects, there is no defect cannot be repaired or dealt with.

3- Praying and beseeching God and also standing prayer help in the love of others.

4- Do not try to solve a problem with a bigger problem by insulting, it is not a solution but it is the beginning of another problem.

5- Think about the feelings of others around you before you utter insults.

6-Accustom your tongue on the words of encouragement and kindness, and at that time there will be no place for insults and and foul talks.

7- Try to be long patience and slow anger, and try to control your feelings and your tongue and do not make it hold on you.

How can we benefit from the insults of others to us?

Can we take advantage of something bad that could hurt our reputation or feelings like insulting? Can we learn from good things that can benefit us in our life? Answer is Yes!! The insults of others can be a door through which we enter the soul of the abuser, and we can benefit from it to improve communication with him in the future and turn him towards the best.

25/2/2019 – Ahmed Ali