Fathering Matters
15 Jan 2010
Fathering Decisions For The New Year
Strong families are intentional. They do not happen by chance. Beginning of the year is a great time to make certain fathering decisions that will help you build healthy families.
Decide today that your career is only as good as your family. Family is like a base camp for mountain climbers. If you want to climb mountains, you must have a good base camp, a place where there are shelter and resources, a place where you can nurture and rest before attempting to reach another summit. You will not go far or achieve much without your solid base camp. If you want to climb high, then tend to the base camp and keep it in good shape. You will be healthier, happier, more effective persons if you do.
Decide today that your children are more important than your personal projects. Be willing to pause for a moment, look them in the eye and listen to them for what they need. Set aside regular family time during week that you will protect from intrusion by unimportant urgent matters.
Decide today that your children are special no matter how they fare in school. Let them know without a doubt that they are loved and cherished regardless of their grades. Academic performance is just one of the many gifts our children can be blessed with but not the only one. They have new skills to learn but they are not failures. They may not meet someone else’s expectation but they will succeed with a father who believes in them.
Edwin Choy
Co-founder & Director,
Centre for Fathering
This article was first broadcast on 'Parenting Today' 93.8FM
Reflection pointers for fathers ...
Do we measure our happiness in our children by their results and achievements or do we have happiness in our children despite their results and achievements.
Action pointers for fathers ...
Stick little notes in places that your child will find it after you leave for work (e.g inside their clothes drawer, inside their pencil box, on the screen of their mobile phone.) Let them know you appreciate and love them on these notes, “No strings attached”.
What's happening at CFF ...
Centre for Fathering is celebrating our 10th Anniversary this year. We are grateful for your support in our movement and we are looking to expand our reach to meet more people that believe in getting father’s more involved in their children’s life.
CFF has evolved over the years and have found the obvious truth that the majority of fathers are at their workplaces. We are calling our readers to highlight our services, target our website to them or forward this e-mail to them. We will be more than willing to make a trip to the company to present out services if needed.
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