I Define Myself Through Good and Bad Times

I Define Myself Through Good and Bad Times - Nicole Kim (Valencia High School, 11th Grade)

Life can be unpredictable, and sometimes challenges arise beyond our control. The summer before my sophomore year, my family faced a financial crisis when my dad lost his job due to his company’s American branch closing.This forced us to move into a smaller home, breaking the stability and comfort I had known.

Returning from my mission trip to Korea, my family had moved. Everything felt strange in our new house, which was almost half the size of my previous home. Plastering a smile on my face, I tried to be the brave daughter, recognizing how much more difficult this was for my parents. The loss of my family's financial stability meant giving up many things that brought me joy, like participating in a dance organization. Struggling with housework and the pressures of school, I felt a deep sense of discouragement as my grades slipped, and I often wondered why I had to endure such hardships.

During this tough period, I remembered the biblical story of Job, who faced immense trials and emerged resilient. This reflection led me to understand that our worth isn't defined by our circumstances, wealth, or academic performance. Instead of letting the situation defeat me, I chose to see it as an opportunity for growth. I started reading stories from the bible following my family’s religious tradition, realizing that figures like Job and Jacob faced their own struggles, yet their identities were not defined by them.

Determined to take control of my life, I began babysitting to contribute financially, which not only helped my family but also restored my sense of purpose. The trials I faced ultimately shaped me into a more resilient and compassionate individual. In the past, I used to get angry and frustrated at myself for not being able to be the strong, perfect person that is in charge of her life; now instead, I embrace the growth I’ve gained. Adversity pushes us to discover strengths we didn’t know we had, and it’s how we respond to challenges that truly defines us.

In the end, I learned that other people’s actions do not define me; I define me. I hope to carry forward the empathy and understanding I've developed, recognizing that everyone faces their own struggles.