✅ CGPS Mastery Course - Steps & Habits (Homework)
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🧡 Core Actions, week by week
Complete the actions you feel good about completing. For greater benefit, print this page and check off actions as you do them or use a habit tracker such as "Habit Share" or just keep referring back to this page. If you complete just these you are WAY on your game! 👍 If you'd like more, scroll down to "Extra Actions for the Stout of Heart."
🧡 Actions include blue hyperlinks for additional information, or you could just wing it based on your current understanding. It's up to you.
Week 1 / Orientation (About 5 to 20 minutes)
__ Set up your CGPS lists, notes etc. in a notebook or on your phone i.e. "My Totally Awesome Marriage." We’ll be putting several different lists in this as we go. For now you could start 1 list for personal CGPS goals & actions you may develop as we go.
__ Set a regular time for your S&A Interviews with your S&A Partner. (We'll post the directory after the 1st night).
Week 2 / Agreement 1 / Live Life Intentionally) (About 30 to 60 minutes).
__ Determine your morning power hour. What does it look like for you? i.e. prayer, exercise, planning etc.
__ Launch Relationship Cleanse. Zero conversation about your relationship. 100% increase in chit-chat. Trust us. You can do this.
__ Share Your "Managing Outgoing" good news with each other. ⬅ Scroll down to #2 ("Launch"). Note: This link goes to 50 pages of reading, but Section 1 & 2 (about 2 pages) are all that's vital. The rest is for the "Stout of Heart."
__ Launch Nightly Check-In Just Part 1 (meaning, "chit-chat").
Week 3 - Agreement 2 / Underlying Trust (About 5 to 20 minutes)
__ Spend 5 to 20 minutes breaking through distrust to trust. Click here 😎
__ Introduce Part 2 into your “Nightly Check-In.” Make sure your requests are U.S.A. requests.
Week 4 - Agreement 3 (Boundaries) (About 10 to 20 minutes)
__ Read more about “Managing Outgoing” - one of the most important pieces of CGPS.
__ After reading it, share how it applies to you (not your spouse) and what promise it might hold for the future.
__ Share your Managing Incoming good news with each other. ⬅ (Click to the left. It's at the top of the T.O.C.)
Week 5 - Agreement 4 (Love vs. Control)
__ Study "Gift Card" options. Consider which gifts seem to be calling to you in your marriage. Consider "Talk Cards" as a premiere option... suggested at the right time, in the right spirit. We talk about this more in the Saturday training.
Week 6 - Agreement 5 (Heal the Real Wounds)
__ Write & Share with the subject line, "What's Missing" (Section 4 - Question 10). Click here to go to "Write & Share" subject lines. The instructions for how to do "Write & Share" are at the top of the page.
Week 7 - Agreement 6 (Show Up as Your Real & Best Self)
Week 8 - Agreement 7 (Assist Loved Ones in Showing Up)
Take every negative thought prisoner and into rehabilitation for the next 7 days.
Week 9 - Agreement 8 (Face Into the Wind)
__ With your arms open wide, repeat this prayer every day this week (or anything like it): "Dear Heavenly Father, I’m so thankful for everything, just as it is- especially for the opportunity of growth, service, love & happiness inside of ____________ (whatever situation is causing you resistance). Thank you for the strength to face into the wind and into the fire, and for the joy that’s on the other side. Thank you for making weak things strong and bringing me home.”
Week 10 - Agreement 9 (I Cause My World)
__ As you've continued to look for yourself as the cause, consider taking feelings you've been discovering into the arms of Jesus by studying the LDS ARP manual and perhaps even taking in a few meetings. Click here for ARP resources.
🚀 Extra Actions (for Stalwarts)
A sharp saw gets results. A sharpened spouse does too. 😀
🚀 Week 1 / Orientation
__ Each time you catch yourself in a negative thought, train your mind toward positivity using this map: Click here for map.
__ Go shopping for healthy sugar substitutes; honey, stevia, etc.
__Track your Mastery/CGPS & other personal habits anyway you'd like.
__Join our "Groupme" for questions, victories, encouragement & commitments. Please, no content! (It's not Facebook).
__ Videos & Podcasts for this week's Agreement - Youtube Videos.
🚀 Week 2 / Agreement 1 / Live Life Intentionally) (...like it's you that's driving)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ If you're willing, track your Mastery/CGPS & other personal habits. We recommend "Habit Share."
__ Start a "100 Things" list.
🚀 Week 3 - Agreement 2 / Underlying Trust (I Look for the Evidence of Your Love)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ Study and discuss "Getting to Know You" and "Conversation Tips."
__ Choose a theme or two from "Section 1" in "Write & Share" and spend some time on this, this week.
__ Continue in your "100 Things" list through the next 2 or 3 weeks.
__ Continue to catch as many negative thoughts as you can, using this map (Note, this is for you, not your spouse). Click here for a fridge poster reminder.
__ If you're willing, track your Mastery/CGPS & other personal habits. We recommend "Habit Share."
🚀 Week 4 - Agreement 3 (Boundaries) (Ask the "Centering Questions)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ Study the "Centering Questions" document. This is integral to Agreements 2, 3 & 4.
__ Videos & Podcasts for this week's Agreement - Youtube Videos / Class recording.
__ Continue in Nightly Check-In., including Part 2 (as inspired).
__ Read “Managing Outgoing - Request List Protocol.” This chapter is one of the most important pieces in our 10 weeks together. After reading it, share how it applies to yourself (not your spouse) and what promise it could hold for the future).
__ Watch "Coach Carter" (ideally the VidAngel version) for your next date night.
__ Videos & Podcasts for this week's Agreement - Youtube Videos / Class recording.
🚀 Week 5 - Agreement 4 - Love vs. Control (Live in the "Centering Questions")
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ Read 25 items from your "100 Things" to your spouse or text her one, each day for 100 days.
__ Study and internalize possible "Gifts" from the "Gift Card" options. Consider which gifts seem to be calling to you in your marriage, or other relationships. Consider "Talk Cards" as a premiere option- suggested at the right time, in the right spirit.
__ Watch this week's youtube Videos (more coming soon).
__ Pick another "Write & Share" or "Walk & Share" for your date night or for Sunday afternoon.
🚀 Week 6 - Agreement 5 - Heal the Real Wounds (Become Sensitive to Where It Hurts & Take Action)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ Pick another "Write & Share" or "Walk & Share" for your date night or for Sunday afternoon.
__ This week's supplementary youtube Videos.
__ This week's class recording (if you couldn't join us, or if you want to take notes).
🚀 Week 7 - Agreement 6 - Show Up as Your Best & Real Self (Stop Testing and Start Loving)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ Study and launch "Weekly Inventory."
🚀 Week 8 - Agreement 7 - Assist Others in Showing Up (Be the Mirror of People's Real Selves)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ Continue in your 30 Day "Affirmation Flood" ("High Five +")
__ 100 Things (Pulling Back the Branches)
1) Revisit or start your "100 Things I love or appreciate about you" list.
2) Make sure you've included aspects of what you love, appreciate or admire about your spouse, even (and especially if) he or she isn't completely showing up in this way i.e. "I love how you hold my hand when we walk" (even if he or she often forgets to).
3) Read 10 to 100 of your favorite entries (including aspects discussed above) to your spouse.
__ Rent and watch "Man of La Mancha" and/or "Flamin' Hot" (Disney + or Hulu)
🚀 Week 9 - Agreement 8 - Face Into the Wind (Choose the Road of Greatest Opportunity)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ If you didn't do this in the class, write on a piece of paper the words: “Any other path of actions other than the actions or habits I feel called into- actions I resist, but that I know will fill my life with goodness and happiness and bring me home to God.” This piece of paper is your “ship” (the one you’re burning). It symbolizes your inclination to face away from the wind of opportunity to grow and change that’s before you. Please fold it up (and if you have an envelop, address it to "God") and burn it- letting its smoke rise into God’s arms where He will make weak things strong.
🚀 Week 10 - Agreement 9 (I Cause My World) (Look for Your Self as the Cause)
__ Listen to "Principles of Mastery" & "CGPS Objectives" (7 minutes)
__ Register for personal coaching or find a good couples therapist. You've embraced the past. Now, circle back to Agreement 1 and create a new future.
__ If you haven't fully appreciated the interpersonal aspect of Agreement 9 (in the context of marriage), click here and spend some more time in the Agreement 9 space. As we say in the the 2-Day "9 Agreements" workshop, "Come on in. The water is warm."
Note that a compilation of Couples GPS & Mastery habits appear below in Suggested Ongoing Habits.
🚄 Ongoing Habits - "Essentials" & "Expert" (Click the blue hyperlinks)
🚄 Ongoing Habits - "Essentials" & "Expert" (Click the blue hyperlinks)
Essentials (Click on Blue Links)
🧡 Attending the weekly class or listening to the recording. pathofpeace.org/zoom
🧡 Relationship cleanse (7 days)
🧡 Nightly Check-In (Gentle issues management + getting to know and love each other.)
🧡 Weekly Date Night (Us time! Yay! No kids, No Issues. Just being with each other!.)
🧡 Manage Outgoing ("Request List" Protocol) / (Making peaceful requests)
Expert (all the above, plus...)
🧡 Daily - Power Hour, including 20 Minutes+ exercise
🧡 Breakthrough as needed / as guided
🧡 Use Talk Cards or Love Seat to resolve issues, as needed.
🧡 Do Guided Conversations, either at "Date Night," Sunday Afternoons, or Private Retreat
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