Couples GPS Mastery
Overview / Affirmations

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Principles of Mastery
Mastering your own life is the beginning of healing your marriage

1) Live Life Intentionally (Return to the vision, daily). (Agreement 1 in the "9 Agreements", with special application to Principles of Mastery). 

2) Sharpen the Saw, daily.

3) Manage Action From Your Lists & Your Calendar (not your head).

4) Make Decisions (vs. Compound Clutter).

5) Do One Thing at a Time vs. Overwhelm (See #3).

6) Face Your Life (Your Choices), also called "Consciousness." (best facilitated in Habit Stacking &/or Tracking)

7) Celebrate Success (including your Mastery Journal).

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Couple GPS - Core Objectives
With undercurrents and overlap in "The 9 Agreements" or in other words, what the "9 Agreements" look like in your marriage. 

1) My marriage is my highest priority, which blesses my children in the deepest way possible.

2) I build trust by building my friendship, making it easier to navigate issues.

3) I build friendship and intimacy through speaking my spouses love language.

4) I speak to the possibility vs. the disappointment (Agreement 7 in the "9 Agreements", with special application to couples). 

5) I shower my spouse with positives vs. implying poor performance or flawed character.

6) I look for the evidence of love. (Agreement 2 in the "9 Agreements", with special application to couples).

7) I seek clarification vs. pronouncing judgment.

8) I make specific requests vs. nag, complain, stonewall, check out or open fire.

9) I cheer-lead my spouse's efforts to love me and make me happy. I celebrate any success- no matter how small.

10) I live in the 5 centering questions. I protect my love. If my feelings turn cold, I did that. (Agreement 3 in the "9 Agreements", with special application to couples).

11) I navigate sensitive conversations with guidelines (Love Seat, Weekly Inventory), featuring immediately turning my attention to my spouse and validating his or her feelings completely as needed.  

12) I am committed to whatever resource we need to stay together and love each other.

The 9 Agreements

1) Live Life Intentionally.  I’m not a passenger. I’m the driver. I make choices that lead to what I actually want.

2) Underlying Trust. I look for the evidence of your love. I trust that there could be love between us.

3) Boundaries. I’m committed to this working for both of us. I’m willing to guide you to this possibility.

4) Love vs. Control. I’m here to serve you, not control you. I live in the centering questions.

5) Heal the Real Wounds. I am willing to be present to where it hurts and to develop solutions.

6) Show Up as Your Real & Best Self.  I’m willing to show up in my excellence & to stop testing you to see if you’ll love me in my compromise.

7) Assist Others in Showing Up. I water flowers vs. weeds. I speak to the possibilities, not the disappointments.

8) Face Into The Wind. I will point my awareness, my gratitude, my willingness & my nothingness into the hard part of the journey.

9) I Cause My World. 100% Accountability / 100% Responsibility. I look for myself as the cause.

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