π 1) What am I willing to do? β¦("Pro action question") - This question is my "get out of victim jail card" and brings me "back into my body"- back to my own business (my choices)- not his or hers. Question 1 assumes endless possibilities- all under the heading of "What can I bring to this?" (See complete list toward the bottom of this page).Β
π 2) What am I not willing to do, or endure? What am I not comfortable with? What doesn't work for me? This is the "Self Honesty and Self-determination Question" - assisting me in noting where he or she ends and I begin- to experience myself as a distinct and separate person with a willingness to love my neighbor as myself. This question heals me from the illusion of helplessness, returns me to a sense of self-determination and even further out of my victim story.
π 3) What do I feel would be the best for everyone, including me? β¦(the "Win Win" Question) often including a cost/benefit analysis as I review the first 2 questions now through this lens. This question, especially, creates balance and wisdom and opens my heart to win win possibilities.
π 4) What am I not seeing? ...(the "Revelation Question"). What am I not seeing, even in this very moment? Am I missing a bigger picture? Are the possibilities I'm seeking in this situation even realistic? Is there another way to reach the objective? What's another way of looking at this? (This question invites a more complete view of the situation- moving you away from limited thinking toward possible solutions).
π 5) What would I like to see happen? (This is the "Perspective Question" - instilling a deeper look at and awareness of your life goals visions). The other 4 questions are viewed through this lens.
π Note: Asking these questions will only deliver the right answers for you, if you are right- if you are not steeped in fight or flight, closed mindedness, controllment or blame. The more balanced, forgiving and calm you are, the greater your chances are of coming up with inspired answers. Click here for more on getting clear.Β