Note that topics can appear in different lists (i..e. "Write & Share", "Walk & Share"), giving you the option to write first, or just talk about it. Note also that you can use any subject for any format - "Write & Share", "Read, Write & Share", "Walk & Share" etc.   Finally, note that each section has a rating (💙core, 🤿 deep dive or
😊 light) 

💙 Section 1 - CGPS Launch (Some topics are best after reading on the topic. Click on links) 

1) Getting to Know You - What positive feelings do I experience when I think about the possibility of getting to know you better? and How do I feel about the Tips and Guidelines?  

2) Blessing of Marriage - (Click here to watch video first) - What did I feel when I watched this video? and/or as I consider the wounds we each feel, what blessings could come (to us and our children) from healing these wounds and doing whatever it takes to get back on track?  

3) Relationship Cleanse - Something that's struck me as I've considered a Relationship Cleanse is _____. How could not talking about our relationship for a period of time bless our marriage and/or what do I feel as I consider this Cleanse? (Note: Remember to write & talk about you, not your spouse). (Click here for more on "Relationship Cleanse")

4) Request List Protocol - How could working through my upset feelings first, before approaching my spouse with an issue bless our marriage? and What do I feel as I commit to getting out of my story and clarifying my specific requests? (Click here for more on "Request List") 

5) Nightly Check-In - How could checking in with each other each night (including at least a couple of minutes of chit-chat) bless our marriage? What do I feel about saving some of my requests for our Nightly Check-In, vs. random complaints &/or pickiness throughout the day)?  "Click here for more on "Nighty Check-In" 

🤿 Section 2 - Couples GPS Basics (These are deep, but so good! For lighter shares, see Section 3) - Please use the instructions above.

1) Work on the roof when the sun is shining (A roof protects you from the storm. Don’t wait until it starts leaking again to recommit to CGPS principles. And especially, don't wait until it's too late. The best time to work on the roof is when the sun is shining. Working on a roof when the sun is shining, vs. in the panic of a storm drives you to a new, higher level proficiency in living correct principles.)  -  Write or Walk & Share your thoughts on "Working on the roof when the sun is shining."  

2) Close the Back Door - Please click here to read sections 6,7 & 8 of "The Basics." The reading on this is about 15 to 20 minutes but represents the very core of CGPS. What did I feel as I read these sections (6, 7 & 8) &/or How does this apply to me- not my spouse? &/or What could happen in me &/or in my marriage If I completely closed the back door?

3) Common enemy - The experience of a common external enemy creates a pull toward cohesion in a couple. On closer examination couples you see that it's not you and your spouse against each other- it's you and your spouse against your negative cycles. It is vital to see the negative cycles as the enemy- not your partner (Inspired by Sue Johnson). What does the reading above mean to me personally? and/or In what ways have I perhaps missed the essence of this in the past? What has the cost been of not seeing this? and/or What blessings do I see ahead as I more fully grasp this?

4) The Perfect Storm - Click here to first read “The Perfect Storm", then return here:
As I consider what we just read and my resistance to our differences (and to your shortcoming), what is God trying to tell me? or Is it possible that we are “just what the Doctor ordered” for each other? - that you are, in fact,  the very stairway to heaven I need the most? What does all of this make me feel- toward you, or myself, or life and/or our marriage?  

😊 Section 3 - Other Topics (Please use the instructions at the top of this document).

1) Long Hugs - How do I feel when you hug me for a long time?

2) Praying together - What do you feel when we pray together? About me, about you, about our life together, about the future?

3) Connecting with my love for you - What do I feel as and when I connect with you and wake up my love for you? (vs. drifting around our marriage in a semiconscious, robot state- just getting by every day without this vital connection.)  

4) Coming Through for You - Why do I want to come through for you? and/or How does it affect me when I do come through for you? &/or What do I feel? 

5) How do I feel knowing I am yours? 

6) Humble Pie - How do I feel when I humble myself, apologize and determine how to come through for you even better? 🥧 

7) What's at the bottom? - What’s at the bottom of some of my sadness, upset or emptiness that doesn't have anything to do with you?  

8) Most significant thing - The most significant thing that has happened with us the last 3 months & how it made me feel. 

9) Making you #1 - What have I done to make you #1 recently and how does it make me feel? 

10) When you've had a bad day - What are my feelings when I'm aware that you have had a bad day? 

11) Need to relax - When I need to relax, what I love the most from you is ___________. How it makes me feel when you provide this is ________ (and don't just write "relaxed") 

12) Getting your attention - How do I feel when I can get your attention easily?  How do I feel when I can't? 

13) When I can connect - How do I feel when you are easy to connect with emotionally? What do I feel when, from my point of view, when you're not? 

14) When I'm anxious  - How do I feel knowing I can lean on you when I am anxious or unsure. How much do I need this? 

15) 90/10 Principle (90% of our conversation is chit-chat. 10% is issues management) - What do I feel as I focus on getting to know you and enjoying you vs. trying to improve you or trying to get you to cooperate more with my plan for your life? 

🤿 Section 4 - Deep Dives (Most of these are from Sue Johnson, "Hold Me Tight) - (Please use instructions at the top of this document).

1) “I know that man is nothing” - “It came to pass that... Moses said unto himself: Now, for this cause I know that man is nothing, which thing I never had supposed”  -  How does recognizing my helplessness to overcome character flaws (and/or addictions) invite God's help?

2) Fights (from "Hold Me Tight") - Even when we fight or disagree, I know I'm important to you and we will find a way to come together. Knowing this is true makes me feel ____________ or, because from my point of view, this statement isn't as true as I'd like, I sometimes feel __________. Something specific I'd like you to say or do that would give me assurance after a disagreement is ____________. This would make me feel __________. Would you willing to practice this right now? I would love that.

3) Being vulnerable - When I don't show you my raw vulnerability, I feel ________________. When you end up seeing my reactive surface feelings I feel _________________.

4) Defending my innocence - Recently I attempted to establish my innocence in a conflict (where, by the way, I may not have completely been innocent). How I tried to “win” the fight and prove my innocence was _____________. How I accused you was ______________________. My usual comebacks when I feel cornered are __________________. My feelings on all of this are _________.

5) Raw feelings - Recently, what triggered my raw feelings was when (provide an indisputably, objective description of what was said or what happened- not your judgement) _____________. On the surface, I probably showed _____________ (describe your behavior and/or attitude), but deep down, I just felt _____________ (pick some primary emotions i.e. sad, angry, shame, fear, abandonment etc.)  What I longed for was ______________. The main the message I got about our relationship or, about me was _____________. The message I longed to hear was ______________.

6) Physical Closeness - I feel comfortable being physically close to you. Knowing this is true makes me feel __________ or, because from my point of view this statement isn't as true as I'd like, I sometimes feel __________. Something specific you could do or say to help me feel more comfortable being close to you is ________. This would make me feel ________.  Would you willing to practice this right now? I would love that.

7) Happiness  - According to Couples Coach, Natalie Clay, if you are responsible for your own happiness (not your spouse), then every little thing that goes right, and every little good moment between you, is a bonus! To some degree, I have made YOU the reason I am happy or not happy. How has this worked out for me, or how has this not worked out?

8) Me - The most important thing to know about me is _______ (Do you best to not implicate your spouse).

9) Guiding you - Couples GPS stresses lovingly but consistently guiding you (my spouse) to what works for me too, while at the same time, not leaning on you or counting on you to change so that I can finally be happy. By doing this, what might happen in my heart? _____ What would this feel like for me? _____ What might this feel like for you? or What might happen in YOUR heart?

10) What's Missing - What do I feel is missing in my life? Or, is there something I could do, or not do, more or less of that would help me feel more balanced and happy? What would that be? What do I feel as I think about this? (Please avoid implicating your spouse about what's missing. This is about your life and your choices).

🤿🧐 Section 5 - Contemplative (lighter and deeper, both)  - (Please use the instructions at the top of this document).

1) Your greatest fears - When I think about your greatest fears, what does it make me feel? &/or what perspective does this create? 

2) Childhood - When I think about what your childhood was like, what does it make me feel? &/or what perspective does this create?

3) Life dreams - When I think about your life dream(s), what does it make me feel? What perspective does this create?

4) Greatest needs - When I think about my your greatest need(s), what does it make me feel? &/or what perspective does this create?

5) Relationship to our kids - When I think about your relationship to our kids, what does it make me feel? What perspective does this create? (Note: Keep this upbeat, pointing toward the truest version of your spouse.)

6) Talents - When I think about my your talents and gifts, what does it make me feel? &/or what perspective does this create?

7) Challenges - When I think about your trials and challenges, what does it make me feel? What perspective does this create?

8) Your commitment to me - When I think the depth of your commitment and love for me (through I’m not always aware of it), what does it make me feel? What perspective does this create?

9) Your commitment to our family - When I think about your commitment to our family (though I’m not always aware of it), what does it make me feel? &/or what perspective does this create?

10) Your commitment to your beliefs - When I think about the depth of your commitment to your beliefs and/or values, what does this make me feel?  What perspective does this create?

11) Focus on positive - How do I feel when I focus on what I love about you or when I’m looking for positive things about you?

12) 🤿 Your are the way - You are not in the way of my happiness. You are the way. Here’s how: Because we have promised ourselves to each other and because of the opportunity for growth our relationship has presented, you are the way. I see this. I see you. I see past my wounds. I see you and I love you and I will never say goodbye, regardless of how hard things might be or get. As I consider all of this, what do I feel? What is this making me? What do I think this means for you?

13) 🤿 Being there for you (Ambush)  - What do I feel as I consider the possibility of listening to you even when you’re frustrated with me or have “ambushed” me? In other words, even when you’re not yourself and have to some degree come undone- how do I feel about deciding to not take it personally and to be there for you the best I can?

14) Habits - What does it feel like to turn up my intentions when it comes to developing good habits? or, Is it possible that to some level I am not willing to notice the difference between what I want and what I’m actually doing, day to day? How does this feel and how does it affect our feelings for each other?

15) Habits - What happens inside me as I deliberately and consciously form habits that lead to what I want?  How does this affect our relationship?

16) Close to you - When I have felt closest to you in the past 3 to 6 months and how it feels?

17) What's something I think you'd love me to say to you more often- daily, weekly, monthly i.e. “I love you”, “I'm sorry”, “What would you like to do this weekend?”, “Where can we go this month for our get a way?” What do I think you would feel if I said these things? 

18) Greeting me - How does it feel when you greet me (or treat me) warmly after a rough day?

19) Why do I love you?

20) As I increase my consciousness of and my focus on what you need, I'm beginning to see that ______.

21) Needing you - In what ways do I need you the most? How do I feel when you come through for me in these ways?

22) How do I feel when you kiss me or touch me?

23) When you need me - What are my feelings when you tell me you need me (or when I sense that you need me)?

24) What are my feelings when I want to be with you and can't.

25) How do I feel when I listen to you with my heart? (without trying to fix you)

26) How do I feel when you listen to me with your heart? (with you trying to fix me)

27) What I feel as I look and see the real you or as God heals me from my story and opens my eyes to who you really are. 

28) What are my feelings when I know I have hurt you?

29) 🤿 Apology - How do I feel when I humble myself, apologize and determine how to come through for you even better?

30) Proud - What are my feelings when I know you are proud of me?

31) The most significant thing that has happened with us the last 3 months & how it made me feel.

32) Relaxing - When I need to relax, what I love the most from you is _____ , and how it makes me feel. 

33) Bad day - What are my feelings when I'm aware that you have had a bad day?

34) When I’m upset about something, I would love for you to ______.   When you do, it makes me feel _____.

35) 🤿 Opening up - What feelings do I have that I find most difficult to share with you?  Why? How does it make me feel when I share these kinds of feelings? 

36) An Entire Day - If we could spend an entire day with you, uninterrupted, I would want to (and don't just say "have sex all day", unless of course you are a woman) ____.

37) Mornings - How do I feel when I get up in the morning and see you?

38) 🤿 How do I feel when you use all 3 words to tell me you love me? ("I love you" vs. "love you")

39) What are my feelings just being quiet and cozy with you?

40) 🤿 3 things I like that you do for me, in order of importance.  Why? ...and how it makes me feel.

41) 🤿 On the porch - What would I like to be saying to you if when were sitting on the porch of our house in 20 years?

42) Inspiring Content - How do I feel when we read scriptures (or something super inspiring) as a couple?  How do I think you feel?

43) 🤿 Responding to distance - What do I sometimes do when I feel separated from you (or if I feel I’ve disappointed you)? How do I feel when I do this? How do I think you might feel? What could I do instead and if I did this, how do I think we would both end up feeling?

44) Your fault? What happens to me when I conclude that something is your fault? How do I feel inside?

45) Accountability - What would I feel if I took 100% responsibility for every thing I did, said and am that causes you emotional pain? What do I think you might feel?

46) 🤿 Safety - What is it like for me when I don’t feel emotionally safe? - when I feel like you might withdraw your love, or disapprove of me or be disappointed in me?  What do I feel?

47) 🤿 Always there - What is it like for me or what do I feel when I am sure you will always be there for me- that, as long as I am sincerely trying, you will keep encouraging me and never leave me?

48) Holding hands - What do I feel when we hold hands and watch something funny together or take a walk together?

49) What do I feel when I serve you or take care of you in a tender or focused way?

50) Service - What are my feelings when I serve along side you (i.e. service project, church, family, neighbors etc.) 

51) 🤿 Triggers - As I consider how we trigger each other at times, what am I learning about love, commitment, empathy, patience and compassion?

📚 Section 6 - Content Reflection
Any of the following are wonderful options for "Write & Share" or "Walk & Share" i.e. read and/or listen, reflect, share etc. See instructions at the top of the page. 

1) Anything from "Extra Inspiration", especially "Hold Me Tight" or any of the articles or videos.