CGPS - Walk & Share

Walk & Share

What is this page? Click here for background on "Getting to Know You" topics & "Guided Conversations." Note that "Walk & Share" can also be "Drive & Share", "Sail & Share" etc.

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Instructions

Warning! If any of these topics trigger an issue, please put the issue on your Request List and return to it later with Talk Cards or a Love Seat.

1) Pick a topic you both feel good about (below) for your walk.

2) Partner A shares perspective or feelings on the topic.

3) Partner B reflects on Partner A’s share i.e. “What struck me about what you shared (or said) was _____” or “What I think I understand more about you is ____”

4) Partner A reflects on his or her own share - “What struck me about what I shared (or said) was _____” or “What I think I understand more about myself is ____.”

5) Switch directions and start over with steps 2, 3 & 4.

Notes

a) Once you start the recording (below) the sharing guidelines (above) will play. You'll hear little dings for when to pause and talk (or, you could use the written Instructions above if you feel you can walk and read at the same time).

b) Either partner, at any time can ask for more i.e. "Tell me more about ____” (You could even pick a word or phrase your partner said i.e. “Tell me more about when you said ______”) &/or “Tell me more about your perspective on the subject line.”

c) Walk & Share works well in combination with listening to recordings as you walk i.e. Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight), Tony Robbins, The Bible or anything in "Extra Inspiration." For this, you could pause your recording as inspired and share i.e. "How I think I can apply this to myself is. ____ and/or "How this is changing my perspective."

d) ⚡symbol indicates what could be sensitive. Avoid these unless you a) put your thoughts in a sweet way and b) promise to not be defensive.

Note that topics can appear in different lists (i..e. "Write & Share", "Walk & Share"), giving you the option to write first, or just talk about it.)

Section 1) CGPS Launch (Good if you're just starting with "Couples GPS")

1) Relationship Cleanse - How could not talking about our relationship or any sensitive issues for a period of time bless our marriage and/or What do I feel as I consider (or have completed) a Relationship Cleanse (Note: Remember to talk about you, not your spouse). (Click here for more on "Relationship Cleanse")

2) Request List Protocol - How could working through my upset feelings first, before approaching my spouse with an issue bless our marriage? and What do I feel as I commit to getting out of my story and clarifying my specific requests? (Click here for more on "Request List")

3) Nightly Check-In - How could checking in with each other each night (including at least a couple of minutes of chit-chat) bless our marriage? What do I feel about saving some of my requests for our Nightly Check-In, vs. random complaints &/or pickiness throughout the day)? "Click here for more on "Nighty Check-In"

4) Private Retreat - What good things could happen through regular Private Retreats? and/or How do I feel when I schedule significant time for us?

Section 2 - Couples GPS Basics (Good if you're just starting with "Couples GPS")

1) Work on the roof when the sun is shining (A roof protects you from the storm. Don’t wait until it starts leaking again to recommit to CGPS principles. And especially, don't wait until it's too late. The best time to work on the roof is when the sun is shining. Working on a roof when the sun is shining, vs. in the panic of a storm drives you to a new, higher level proficiency in living correct principles.) - Share your thoughts on "Working on the roof when the sun is shining." (Use the sharing instructions at the top of the page).

2) Close the Back Door - What could happen in me &/or in my marriage If I completely closed the back door? (If I decide once and for all that if you are willing to at least consistently try to improve our marriage, so am I- forever). (Use the sharing instructions at the top of the page).

Section 3) Other Topics
Note: Some of these also appear in the "Nightly Check-In" list. (Use the sharing instructions at the top of the page).

1) Focusing on the Positive - How do I feel when I focus on what I love about you or when I’m looking for positive things about you?

2) ⚡ Good things in the future - What good things do I see in our future? How does this make me feel?

3) Gratitude - Examples of how God has touched my life recently and how this makes me feel.

4) Greeting me after a rough day - How does it feel when you greet me (or treat me) warmly after a rough day?

5) How would you describe unconditional love? - How it looks, with who, when, why, examples in your spouse's life or others.

6) Praying Together - How do I feel when I pray with you? ...about you? ...about me? ...about our life together?

7) Seeing the real you - What I feel as I look and see the real you.

8) ⚡ Things I like you to do for me, in order of importance. Why? ...and how it makes me feel.

9) ⚡ Things I'd love to say to me more i.e. “I love you”, “I'm sorry”, “What would you like to do this weekend?”, “You look hot” etc.

10) Things I actually value other than the standard stuff- like being kind, working hard, taking care of the kids etc. i.e. stacking dominoes, making new recipes, writing poetry, lively political conversations etc.

11) Bucket List - What’s something on your bucket list that comes to mind right now, and why now?

12) Favorite things about yourself - What are some things you really enjoy about yourself and why.

13) Lessons - What lessons have you learned recently?

14) Inspiration - What's been the most inspiring thought you've had recently?

15) Going well - What's been going well in your life lately and why?

16) Improvement - What's something you really want to improve (and I won't comment)?

17) Work changes - What's something about your work you would like to change and how do you think you could create that change?

18) Parents - What’s something you love about your parents (either or both)?

19) Challenges - What’s one of your biggest challenges right now (or one of your biggest current fears) and what are you learning from this? (This can’t be about us).

20) What's missing - What’s one or 2 things missing from your life right now and what do you think you might be willing to do about it? (This can’t be about us).

21) Blocking God - What are you not seeing about how God is trying to bless you and how you might be blocking Him?

22) Feelings - What have you been feeling lately? (This is about you, not our relationship.)

23) What’s your vision? - an open ended question- whatever comes to you.

See "Write & Share" for other ideas.

Section 4) Trivia

1) A favorite childhood memory: Favorite memories of your last school, or grade.

2) Would you Bungee jump? Why, or why not?

3) Do you untie your shoes when you take them off or when you put them on?

4) What would you rename our kids if you had to?

5) Who was your favorite celebrity as a child? In what ways did you obsess over this person if you did?

Add your own! 🙂