"New school" by Luisa P.

Dear Year 7 Student, 

I’m having some problems regarding my future and I really hope you could help me. Next year, I will end up in a school which is known for being very hard and I’m kind of nervous about that. However, that’s not even the main problem. What I’m truly worried about is losing friendships that mean a lot to me and not being able to make new ones. 

As I’ve been here since I was 2 years old, it wasn’t really hard to make friends then. Now, there are very few people in our year (approximately 30) and everybody has known each other for quite a while. So, I’m a bit anxious that when I get into a new school that’s full of people who don’t know me, I will have a hard time making new friends. Plus, I’m sure that the groups will be much bigger (just as the school is) and I may end up losing some friendships I really didn’t want to lose. I hope these things don’t happen, but I can’t be sure of that until it really does, and that’s what stresses me out. What should I do?

I’d appreciate your help!

Best wishes, 

Anonymous

Dear Y9 student,

I know that it can be really hard to think about losing old friendships and not being accepted by new ones. Having some trouble making new friends in a new school, and also losing your old friends. This is something that happens with most students. Sometimes we lose people because we changed and we don't feel the same about one another. Making new friends can also be really hard depending on you. One idea is to do your best and show your real self. Everyone will surely like you.

I think you should believe in yourself to make new friends and show yourself. Having to make new friends can be horrifying and scary. I believe that you can always make it. At one point you will always have to make new friends, because it means that you are starting a new cycle.Try to be with groups or somebody that shares the same personality or even the same taste. You should join groups full of people so that you can make new friends. Say yes to parties or getting out with them you can get closer to this new friend. About losing old friendships, we will always lose a friend, although it's sad that is because we change while growing up. It's hard to think that you are losing an old friendship by now in the future. if you lose you can always look for the good things that happened, but there is always a way to not lose them. Depending on yourself. We should always plan things and go out so you can update each other of what is new, that way you don’t lose contact.  If you lose someone, that is important for you. The reason for it can be that you guys don't relate anymore and there is no problem about that. Coming back to making new friends, I have some advice for you. If you don’t try you will never make new friends. Try to always be friendly with new people because that way they will think that you are pretty nice and will start liking you. Join activities with new people. One idea for not losing the contact with old friendships is to stay connected on the internet as well. If I were you I would follow this advice.

If you let it go, it isn't here anymore. When somebody it’s not in your life or is getting away from you we would always like to push the person for you. We don’t want to lose important relationships with people that we really like just because we don’t see each other everyday, but there will always be a way to keep it going, even in distance. Showing that you're interested in somebody 's life, it will show that you are there for your friend. also you can do something big with them that is difficult to forget, for example: travel with them, a surprise party. Even being simple they will see that you care about it. If I texted my friend, we would be closer . don't think about the past, think about the present. It is never too late to keep up with a friend. We always think that making new friends is hard, but it is not, my suggestion to you is showing interest in what they talk about. We can also participate more that way they will see if they like what you talk about and who likes will stay with you. Something that is very important to have in mind is that not everybody likes you, and there isn't a problem about that, maybe they don't relate to you, that way they don’t like you. If you try, you will make amazing friends..

It is usually a good idea to  be with people that you relate to, make new friends, and to keep contact with old ones, do your best to plan things with them. You can always try to maintain contact with old friendships online if you can't make plans, and to new ones just show your real self. I hope this helped you, I gave the best advice that I could and you won't lose someone so important to you and I know you can make new friends. I believe in you.

Sincerely, 

Y7 - Luisa Puga