"Self Steem" by Fernanda G.

Dear Year 7 student

I’m in year 9, and I'm going through some of my problems this year. You know, I'm having a lot of personal issues.  It’s very hard to hear negative comments about me every single day, and sometimes I go back home very sad. Obviously, in the classes, I always try to have a smile on my face and show to the people that I'm happy, but some days I can’t have that smile. I walk alone thinking that I only need to resist a little bit more, because we are very close to the end of the year. When I arrive at my home, my mom is working and she is very exhausted and my grandma is in a bad mood, so I can't talk about my day. In the end, I only go to bed and stay pensive.

Thank you for your support.

Anonymous

Dear Y9 student,

I am really sorry for this big problem, I already had this problem but the people that used to treat me badly are becoming my friends. I hope that this problem gets better and you get happier. I really think that while people are treating you badly, a really good technique to get people to stop doing this is to not get annoyed about the problem, pretending you don’t understand it, then the person or the people will stop to do it or stop to do it every time. 

My suggestion, is that when you think that people don't like you or you think that people are mad at you, one piece of advice is that when people are doing something that you are thinking that people are thinking about you stay calm because if you are nervous this doesn't help anything but makes you much more nervous than you were, if people are looking at you in a strange way don't look at that person but pay attention in class or something else. Another suggestion that will be great for you, when you're nervous, talk to your mother or father, but if you don't feel comfortable, ask your parents so you can see a psychologist, this could help you a lot.

What do you think about  you trying to make some friends? Making friends can help you in your lifve because if you have a friend you can be happiermore happy and you will make a new friend. I will give you a lot of information about your problem to help you better understand it. Here is my advice to you. It is very specific advice to this very specific part of your problem. Useful expression, thoughtful, specific, helpful advice. There should be multiple ideas, explained in a detailed way, including a step by step on how to do it. And here are the reasons this advice should work, in my opinion.

An other advice for you is why do you think about making friends but you talk about things you like, on exemple if you like to see films or series you could talk to the person about films and series. One important thing is  that you can't be talking with the person every time, you can't buy like a bubblegum because the person can have distance from you and the person could not talk to you any more. I know that you will rock-it, and one thing important you cant think of only peoples lives, you are the first person to take care. If you did this, you would be really upsetapsed and you would lose your friendship.  

So I expect that this advice that I gave could help you  .A good idea to you is only relax and dom not think what people are thinking, this last suggestion that I gave you is really good because you are thinking tpo make a good friendship and not what people are thinking of you. If you are getting nervous about what people i8s thinking about you, the first step is to think about another thing that you like. You can talk to your new friend about what you are feeling or if you like to write, write what you are nervous about. I hope that my advice could help you and you can be more comfortable the way you are  . I hope that your problem ends really fast . Any problem that you have again you can send me any emails. 

Bye :)