"Moving School" by Alexandre A.

Dear Year 7 Student,      

I’m having some problems regarding my future and I really hope you could help me. Next year, I will end up in a school which is known for being very hard and I’m kind of nervous about that. However, that’s not even the main problem. What I’m truly worried about is losing friendships that mean a lot to me and not being able to make new ones. 

As I’ve been here since I was 2 years old, it wasn’t really hard to make friends then. Now, there are very few people in our year (approximately 30) and everybody has known each other for quite a while. So, I’m a bit anxious that when I get into a new school that’s full of people who don’t know me,    I will have a hard time making new friends. Plus, I’m sure that the groups will be much bigger (just as the school is) and I may end up losing some friendships I really didn’t want to lose. I hope these things don’t happen, but I can’t be sure of that until it really does, and that’s what stresses me out. What should I do?

I’d appreciate your help!

Best wishes, 

Anonymous

Dear Y9 student,

It is very hard to go through all you are going through now and I’m here to help you. You will change school next year and it is very hard, mainly because you may lose contact with people you are friends with here in Stance. You need to be okay because the school is big and full of new people that can be your friend.

I think your problem is caused because you are a little shy. If I were in your place, I would try to be more open to people and be more friendly.  My advice is you don’t need to be afraid to be who you are. Don’t care what people think about you, just be yourself and people will like who you are. One idea is to, if one of your old friends has a friend in this school, try to talk to them.If you and the other person have the same likes, you are friends. You should follow this advice because it already happened to me. When I changed schools I was very shy but I tried to be more open to people so I tried to speak more, fit in groups and this type of thing.

When the person is moving to another school they may lose some friends. One of the biggest problems when moving schools is losing friends, because of lack of communication and some other problems. If you stop making contact with your friends, they will stop talking to you. Losing friends is very hard, but you can continue speaking with them after your new school. Be happy, because you can make new friends there. One of the reasons why you need to follow this advice is because you will make more friends so don’t be sad to lose some. This advice may seem not good but you won’t completely lose your friends forever, you can still talk to them by WhatsApp, Instagram and other social media.

You can’t forget that you still have some friends here in Stance so you can speak to them about this and don’t lose friendship with them. try to talk to the teacher from the other school and to your old friends.

Sincerely,

Y7-Alexandre Aisen