How To Ask The Right Questions

There are several ways to ask questions using What, Where, When, Who, Why and How. WHAT and HOW elicit the most rewarding answers.  Start with WHAT when you want to draw out information and broaden the perspective about Who, When, Where, Why. Then follow up with HOW if you have the time and the interest to learn a new skill or build the solution.

WHAT questions are open-ended and allow for a wide range of answers. They can be used to gather information, explore ideas, and generate new insights. Here are some examples of empowering questions using What:

• "As I am ready to start my own business, what resources can The Beloveds on High recommend to help me get started and be successful?"

• "I am seeking a new and fulfilling career that is more aligned with my values. What opportunities can Providence present to me that align with my Soul Purpose?"

• "What initiatives can I explore to make a difference in the world? How may I go about making a difference?"

By asking questions in this way, you are taking a more active role in your life and setting yourself up for success. By asking empowering questions, you are taking a step towards creating the life you want. You are also opening yourself up to the possibility of receiving guidance and support from the Universe.

Here are some additional tips for asking better questions:

• Be specific and clear about what you're asking.

• Avoid using loaded or leading questions.

• Be open to hearing different perspectives.

• Be willing to ask follow-up questions.

By following these tips, you can improve your communication skills and get the information you need to make the best decisions for yourself.

Change WHEN to WHAT.  Questions like "When will my house sell?" are asking for a guarantee or assurance that cannot be given. The time it takes to sell a house depends on a variety of factors, including the current market conditions, the condition of the house, and the marketing strategy used.

A better question to ask is "What needs to happen in order for my house to sell?" This question focuses on the actions that can be taken to increase the chances of selling the house. By asking this question, you can identify the specific steps that need to be taken in order to achieve your goal.

By asking "What needs to happen..." you can take control of the situation and increase your chances of success. This question is more rewarding than "When will it happen?" because it gives you the information and guidance you need to take action.

Here are some additional thoughts on the difference between "when" and "what" questions:

• "When" questions are typically about the future. They ask for a date, time, or other specific information about when something will happen.

• "What" questions are typically about the present or the past. They ask for information about what something is, what happened, or what needs to be done.

In the context of selling a house, "when" questions are less helpful than "what" questions. This is because the time it takes to sell a house is often unpredictable. However, by asking "what" questions, you can identify the factors that will affect the sale of your house and take steps to increase your chances of success.

Change WHERE to WHAT.  Questions like "Where should I move to?" or "Where do I start looking for a better job?" can be rephrased in a more empowering way. For example:

• "What I would like to achieve is relocation to a new place where my family and I can be happy, healthy, and live prosperously." (Declaring your intention). 

• "I am considering relocating to a suitable location that aligns with my values. What locations can The Beloveds on High suggest as a good place for me to move to?" (Asking for guidance). 

• "What career or business initiatives can Providence recommend to help me achieve that goal?" (Asking for information and resources to help you achieve your intention).

Change WHO to WHAT.  Rather than ask The Beloveds on High, "Who is the best doctor for me?" (asking for a referral), it is wiser to solicit information that will help you make an informed choice. For example:

• • “When searching for the best doctor, what qualifications do I look for?”

Rather than ask The Beloveds on High, “Who bullied me in childhood?” (asking for a positive ID), ask for healing and enlightenment on the matter. For example: 

• “What is at the root of my issue with bullying? How can the issue be resolved or re-patterned? May I ask The Beloveds on High for healing so that I can forgive my bullies?”

Change WHY to WHAT. When you change a question from "Why" to "What", you are shifting your focus from the past to the future. A "Why" question asks for an explanation of what happened, while a "What" question asks for information that can help you to understand what is happening now and what you can do about it.

For example, instead of asking "Why did I catch COVID?", you could ask "I recently caught Covid. What does my immune system want to tell me?" This question focuses on the information that your immune system is trying to communicate to you, which can help you to understand your current health status and take steps to improve it.

Here are some additional benefits of asking "What" questions instead of "Why" questions:

• They can help you to identify the root cause of a problem.

• They can help you to develop solutions to problems.

• They can help you to learn from your experiences.

• They can help you to improve your understanding of the world around you.

So, the next time you are faced with a question, try asking "What" instead of "Why". You may be surprised at the insights that you gain.

Show Me.  Questions that start with "What" are typically informational. They ask for facts, data, or explanations. Questions that start with "Show me" are typically experiential. They ask for demonstrations, simulations, or visualizations.

Experiential questions can be more revealing than informational questions because they allow us to experience something for ourselves. This can help us to understand the information on a deeper level and to make better decisions.

For example, instead of asking "What is the solution to this dilemma?", you could ask "Please show me the solution to this dilemma." This question invites not only an explanation of the solution, but also a demonstration or simulation of it. By seeing the solution in action, you can better understand how it works and whether or not it is the right solution for you.

If comparing two job offers, for example, you could ask "Show me the probable outcome if I accept job offer #1. Then show me the probably outcome if I accept job offer #2." This line of questioning would allow you to see what your life would be like if you accepted that job offer. You could see what your salary would be, what your benefits would be, and what your responsibilities would be. This information could help you to decide which job offer is the right one for you.

Here are some additional benefits of asking "Show me" questions:

• They can help you to understand information on a deeper level.

• They can help you to make better decisions.

• They can help you to learn from your experiences.

• They can help you to improve your understanding of the world around you.

Here are some additional tips for asking "Show me" questions:

• Be specific. The more specific your question, the more likely you are to get a helpful answer.

• Be open to different perspectives. Don't assume that there is only one right answer.

• Be respectful. Ask your questions in a way that is respectful of the other person.

By following these tips, you can ask questions that will help you to learn and grow.

Avoid questions answerable by “Yes” or “No.”  Yes/no questions are often loaded and close-ended. They do not invite open discussion, they fail to fill in the gaps, and they leave plenty of room for incorrect assumptions. Close-ended questions are often not helpful, especially when you're asking the wrong person.

For example, it is not helpful to ask a psychic, "Do I have cancer?" Only a medical doctor is qualified to answer that with an informed "yes" or "no." If you want to ask Providence about your health, then make your query open-ended, such as:

• "Please bring my attention to any physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual imbalance that requires my immediate attention."

• "Let's start with my physical body. What in my physical body needs attention? Next, what in my mental/emotional life needs attention? Next, what in my spiritual life needs attention?"

• "What is the disease or imbalance trying to tell me? What is the root cause? How can it be resolved, transformed, or re-patterned?"

A yes/no question that leaves the decision-making choice to someone else is not advisable because the choice is ultimately your responsibility. So instead of asking, "I was offered a joint business venture. Should I take it?", rephrase that to:

• "I am considering a joint business venture. What do I need to know in order to make the best decision that serves my soul purpose and provides the highest good for my ideal customers?"

Yes/no questions that ask for predictions like, "Will I get a promotion?" demand guarantees in an uncertain world. Be realistic and revise the question to:

• "What do I need to know or do to get the promotion I seek?"

You can convert almost any yes/no question to a "what" or "tell me..." question. For example, instead of asking, "Will I attract more business?" you can change that to:

• "What can I do to attract more business?"

• "What actions can I take to attract more business?"

• "Tell me what I need to know to attract more business."

• "What advice can The Beloveds on High give me about attracting new business?"

By asking open-ended questions, you can gain a deeper understanding of your situation and make more informed decisions. You can also avoid making assumptions and getting stuck in a rut. So next time you're faced with a yes/no question, try rephrasing it to open up the possibilities.

How. The word "how" can be used in a variety of contexts, but it is more useful when you want to learn how something was done, or you want to learn how to do something yourself, or you're trying to solve a problem or learn a new skill:

How did you solve the problem?
How much did you study for the test?
How long did it take you to finish the job?
How do I get from here to there?
How long did it take you?

HOW questions are also open-ended, but they focus on the process of how something happens. They can be used to understand how things work, how to solve problems, and how to achieve goals. 

For example, if you want to know how Jesus Christ fulfilled his soul purpose, you could ask, "What did Jesus Christ do to accomplish his soul purpose?" However, this question is a bit too broad. It would be better to ask more specific questions, such as:

• What were the challenges Jesus Christ faced?

• How did he turn challenges into triumphs?

• What were his core values and beliefs?

• How did he stay true to his values in the face of adversity?

By asking more specific What and How questions, you can learn from the experience of this holy figure, and then apply his teachings to your own life.

Here are some more examples of how you can use "how" questions to learn more:

• How did he do that?

• How did it happen?

• How did he feel about that?

• How can I solve this problem?

• How can I learn this skill?

So next time you're in a conversation, try starting with WHAT and then following up with HOW. You might be surprised at how much you learn.

Avoid SHOULDs, OUGHTs, NOT TO’s.  Questions that start with "should," "ought," or "not to" can immobilize or constrict you rather than bring greater clarity and peace of mind. These types of questions are often based on external expectations or judgments, rather than your own inner wisdom.

Instead of asking, "Should I leave my partner or stay?", try asking yourself questions that are more investigative, constructive, and transcendent. For example, you could ask:

• What is the current state of our partnership telling me?

• What is best for us at this point?

• How can I bring our relationship to resolution, peace, forgiveness, and healing?

• What am I meant to learn from this?

These questions will help you to gain a deeper understanding of your situation and to move forward in a way that is aligned with your values. They are also more likely to lead to clarity and peace of mind.

This line of questioning can be applied to any area of your life, be it your career, finances, love life, spiritual direction, or psychic development. By asking yourself open-ended, investigative questions, you can gain a deeper understanding of your situation and make choices that are in alignment with your highest self.

Ask from an Authentic Self.  When clients come to a consultation with questions from a worried mind, they are often limited by their perspective. The mind sees things only through a keyhole, and responds to the illusion instead of reality.

A better approach is to connect to your authentic self and ask questions from pure heart, pure mind, and pure intent. This means asking questions that are aligned with your values, your purpose, and your highest good.

For example, instead of asking "I need cash desperately. How can I make a quick buck?", you could ask:

• Show me an inspired idea that (1) moves my soul, (2) generates income while addressing an immediate need for cash flow, (3) draws upon my talents, assets, and resources, (4) and enlists Providence to do the heavy-lifting?

These types of questions come from a place of oneness of heart, mind, and soul. They invite the body to rest on higher ground, and they open you up to receive guidance and inspiration from the Universe.

Here are some additional tips for asking questions from your authentic self:

• Be clear about your intention. What do you hope to achieve by asking this question?

• Be present in the moment. Don't let your mind wander off into the past or the future.

• Trust your intuition. If you feel like a question is important, ask it.

• Be open to receiving the answer in any form. You may receive the answer through words, images, feelings, or other channels.

Connect to Soul Purpose.  Questions that seek alignment with Soul Purpose can clear a "brain fog" much faster than questions that neglect Soul Purpose. Soul Purpose questions invite epiphanies ("Aha!" moments), profound revelations ("OMG!" moments), breakthroughs ("Eureka!" moments), and transformation.

Instead of asking an egoic question like, "What famous person was I in a past life?" you can get more more mileage with questions that transcend ego and connect to soul purpose. For example:

• "Show me a past life that will shed light on my current challenges and teach me how to build a future on a foundation of Soul Purpose?"

• "I am facing challenges in my current life related to my relationships and my career. I believe that these challenges are related to my Soul Purpose, which is to help others. I would like to see a past life where I faced similar challenges and overcame them. This would help me to understand my Soul Purpose and how to build a future on a foundation of service to others. Please show me."