A Guide to Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings
HEALTH EDUCATION - Lesson 9 - Week 5/10
Mental, Social & Emotional Health (5)
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Mental, Social & emotional Health
Mental, Social & emotional Health
A Guide to Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings
A Guide to Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings
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Standard(s), Essential Question(s), Big Idea(s)
LEARNING TARGET / SUCCESS CRITERIA
I will define and identify common sources of boredom, anger, loneliness, shyness, and grief.
I will learn effective strategies for dealing with uncomfortable feelings.
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PRE-INSTRUCTIONAL ACTIVITY
Vocabulary
boredom - feeling tired, restless, and uninterested. You may stare into space. You can't think of anything to do or anyone to be with. Your mind and body feel sluggish. You feel "out of sorts."
anger - a strong feeling of displeasure. Anger can rage out of control in words, tears, or physical action, or it can stay bottled up inside. It can be directed outward to other people or inward toward yourself. Anger can last from a few minutes to several weeks.
loneliness - a painful, empty feeling of isolation. A poor self-concept can make feelings of loneliness worse. You may think that no one wants to be your friend, which increases your level of stress.
shyness - avoiding contact with others. You may have difficulty talking to people in groups or in new situations. You may avoid eye contact or speak in a very soft voice. You may have trouble making new friends, volunteering, or speaking in front of a group. Shyness can cause you to blush, have sweaty hands, a pounding heart, or butterflies in your stomach.
grief - a feeling of great sadness that lasts for a long while. You may cry often, find it hard to concentrate on schoolwork, feel tired, and have trouble sleeping and eating. You may not enjoy doing the things you used to do and may find it hard to think about the future.
OPENING (Engage)
Main Idea
Everyone experiences uncomfortable feelings. Knowing how to recognize and deal with uncomfortable feelings is part of taking good care of yourself.
Why Learn This?
When you can recognize uncomfortable feeling and know ways to deal with them, you can feel more in control of yourself.
WORK PERIOD (Explore/Explain/Extend/Elaborate)
READ: A Guide to Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings
READ: A Guide to Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings
Some feelings can be very uncomfortable. In this lesson you will learn more about five of these feelings: boredom, anger, loneliness, shyness, and grief. You have undoubtedly experienced many of these feelings. What other uncomfortable feelings would you add to the list?
As pleasant or unpleasant as feelings can be, they are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are simply your feelings. Because they are your feelings, you are in charge of how to express them.
You can learn strategies for dealing with uncomfortable feelings. Knowing you are in control of the way you express your feelings makes you feel strong, confident, and good about yourself. It is part of growing up and becoming more mature.
Boredom
Description
Boredom is feeling tired, restless, and uninterested. You may stare into space. You can't think of anything to do or anyone to be with. Your mind and body feel sluggish. You feel "out of sorts."
When It Occurs
You may be bored when it seems there is "nothing to do" on a rainy day, when you are sick, or when all your friends are busy.
Strategies
Name your feeling. Allow yourself to be bored. When you are tired of being bored, exercise can help; so can challenging yourself to find something out of the ordinary to do all by yourself. You could start a new project or even start writing a book describing how bored you are!
WAYS TO DEAL WITH UNCOMFORTABLE FEELINGS
• Acknowledge your feelings.
• Speak up.
• Forgive someone who has hurt your feelings.
• Confide in a friend.
• Choose another activity or group.
• Get some exercise.
• Ask an adult for help.
• Find a way to laugh about the situation.
• Make a plan of action.
Anger
Description
Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure. Anger can rage out of control in words, tears, or physical action, or it can stay bottled up inside. It can be directed outward to other people or inward toward yourself. Anger can last from a few minutes to several weeks.
When It Occurs
Anger can arise from a disagreement between you and a friend, between you and your parents, or between you and anyone else who upsets you. You can also feel anger when you are hurt or disappointed.
Strategies
Learn to express your anger in ways that make you feel in control. You can leave the situation and give yourself time to cool off. You can count to ten, choose something else to do, or read something that makes you laugh, If you disagree with someone, it helps if you both express your feelings and listen carefully to each other. If an angry situation continues for a long time, or if there are threats of violence, ask for help from a family member, counselor, or other trusted adult.
Loneliness
Description
Loneliness is a painful, empty feeling of isolation. A poor self-concept can make feelings of loneliness worse. You may think that no one wants to be your friend, which increases your level of stress.
When It Occurs
Loneliness can result from rejection, a misunderstanding between friends, moving to a new neighborhood or school, or an illness.
Strategies
Naming your feeling and admitting you are lonely are good first steps. If you are in a new situation, remember that making new friends takes time. Be patient with yourself. Look for interests you have in common with people around you. Join an after-school activity that helps you meet people your age who have similar interests. Ask for help from your family, teacher, or counselor.
Shyness
Description
Shyness is avoiding contact with others. You may have difficulty talking to people in groups or in new situations. You may avoid eye contact or speak in a very soft voice. You may have trouble making new friends, volunteering, or speaking in front of a group. Shyness can cause you to blush, have sweaty hands, a pounding heart, or butterflies in your stomach.
When It Occurs
You may feel shy when facing new situations, speaking in front of the class, or introducing yourself to someone for the first time.
Strategies
Know that there is nothing wrong with being shy. Some people are naturally more shy than others. If you want to overcome your shyness, think of one situation where you would like to feel less shy-speaking out loud in class, for example. Start by talking to a student who sits near you. You may be surprised to learn that other students also feel shy. Your teacher may also have suggestions to help you.
Grief
Description
Grief is a feeling of great sadness that lasts for a long while. You may cry often, find it hard to concentrate on schoolwork, feel tired, and have trouble sleeping and eating. You may not enjoy doing the things you used to do and may find it hard to think about the future.
When It Occurs
Grief is a normal response when a person experiences a loss, such as when a family member dies, the family changes, a close friend moves away, or a pet dies.
Strategies
Grief can last for a long while. Be patient with yourself. Openly expressing your feelings of loss will help you start to feel better. Find people you can talk to about your feelings. Writing about a person or pet who died can also help. Remember, the pain you feel will lessen over time.
REMEMBER...Everyone experiences uncomfortable feelings. Knowing how to recognize and deal with uncomfortable feelings is part of taking good care of yourself. When you can recognize uncomfortable feeling and know ways to deal with them, you can feel more in control of yourself.
CLOSING (Evaluate)
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Standard(s)
Standard(s)
HE5.3a - identify characteristics of valid health information, products, and services
HE5.3b - access resources from home, school, and community that provide valid health information
HE5.3c - assess the characteristics of valid health information, products, and services
HE5.4a - apply effective verbal and nonverbal communication skills to enhance health
HE5.4c - demonstrate how to ask for assistance to enhance personal health and the health of others
HE5.5a - identify health-related situations that might require a thoughtful decision
HE5.5b - list healthy options and possible consequences to a health-related issue or problem
HE5.5c - predict the potential outcomes of each option when making a health-related decision
HE5.5d - analyze when assistance is needed in making a health-related decision
HE5.5e - choose a healthy option when making a decision
HE5.5f - describe the outcomes of a health-related decision
HE5.7a - practice responsible personal health choices
HE5.7b - demonstrate a variety of healthy practices and behaviors to preserve or enhance personal health
HE5.7c - model a variety of behaviors that prevent or decrease health risks to self and/or others
Essential Question(s)
Essential Question(s)
What are boredom, anger, loneliness, shyness, and grief?
What are some ways to deal with uncomfortable feelings?
Big Idea(s)
Big Idea(s)
Boredom is feeling tired, restless, and uninterested. Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure. Anger can rage out of control in words, tears, or physical action, or it can stay bottled up inside. Loneliness is a painful, empty feeling of isolation. Shyness is avoiding contact with others. You may have difficulty talking to people in groups or in new situations. Grief is a feeling of great sadness that lasts for a long while.
Here are some ways to deal with uncomfortable feelings:
Acknowledge your feelings.
Speak up.
Forgive someone who has hurt your feelings.
Confide in a friend.
Choose another activity or group.
Get some exercise.
Ask an adult for help.
Find a way to laugh about the situation.
Make a plan of action.
RESOURCES / INSTRUCTIONAL MATERIALS
see below
DCSD Board-Approved Instruction Materials
Your Health: Teacher's Edition - Grade 5. Harcourt Brace & Company. 1999.
Technology
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large video screens for whole-class viewing
sound system for sharing of audio
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