Before you choose a behaviour, response or action think "Is what I am about to do going to bring me closer to this person or further away?" In all interactions you should use a connecting behaviour to bring the relationship closer together.
Connecting Habits
Supporting
Encouraging
Listening
Accepting
Trusting
Respecting
Negotiating Differences
Disconnecting Habits
Criticising
Blaming
Complaining
Nagging
Threatening
Punishing
Bribing, Rewarding to Control