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We look more closely, and with kindness, at the intentions behind our speech.
About this Page
About this Page
Introduction of the Concepts and Practices on this page and how they relate to recovery
Introduction of the Concepts and Practices on this page and how they relate to recovery
How this Concept Applies to Recovery
How this Concept Applies to Recovery
Wise Speech
Wise Speech
Wise Speech is based on the intention to do no harm. We’ve all used speech in a manner that may create harm. The most basic foundation of Wise Speech is honesty or truthfulness. Wise Speech includes all the ways we use our voices, including in writing and online.
Are we motivated by greed, fear, or confusion? Or are we motivated by a sincere desire to express what’s true, what’s useful, what’s kind, and what’s timely? Wise Speech means we speak with the intention of not causing harm, and of fostering safety and security in our community.
How The Practice Helps
How The Practice Helps
Refuge in Dharma (Buddhist Wisdom)
Through reading and listening,
begin to learn about the Four Parts of Wise Speech
Refuge in Buddha (Inner Wisdom)
Through Meditation and Inquiry, we begin to recognize
Our own patterns of speech and how they are connected to our intentions
We begin to practice letting go of speech that is unwise and unskillful.
Refuge in Sangha (Community Wisdom)
We practice cultivating wise speech in real-time at meetings and with service positions.
Refuge in the Dharma
Refuge in the Dharma
Practices that explore and deepen understanding of the Concepts
Practices that explore and deepen understanding of the Concepts
The Path
The Path
Read the Book
Wise Speech
Wise Speech
Links to the chapter of the book on which the rest of this page is based.
Buddhist Community
Buddhist Community
Scroll down to the Growth section of this page for links to talks and guided meditations led by Buddhist teachers. Choose one, then listen or watch.
The Path and Growth
The Path and Growth
Listen to Talks
Listen to Talks
Here is a talk that helps expand on the Third Noble Truth.
Talk: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication - IMCW, Oren Jay Sofer
Talk: A Difficult Person - Larry Yang
Scroll down to the Playlists for links to more recorded talks meditation, articles, and books.
Use the phrases listed under Concepts to search for relevant talks and meditations in Buddhist Sources.
Growth
Growth
Stay Curious
Refuge in Community
Refuge in Community
Mettā: Loving Kindness
Lists
Lists
Three Jewels: Buddha, Dharma, Sangha
Ten Pāramitās: Perfections or Wise Practices
Four Heart Practices: Kindness, Compassion, Equanimity, Appreciative Joy
Five Hindrances: Craving, Resentment, Sloth, Worry, Doubt
Refuge in the Buddha
Refuge in the Buddha
Practices that connect us to our deepest Wisdom
Practices that connect us to our deepest Wisdom
Meditation
Meditation
Rewire the Brain for Recovery
Mindfulness of Posture
Mindfulness of Posture
It is not essential to have a perfect posture, but practicing with it can be a helpful brief meditation in itself.
Pause several times a day for 30-90 seconds
Establish a Posture
Find a comfortable Meditation posture
Take a few easy breaths
Several times a day, pause for a few moments to repeat a supportive phrase:
May I be happy with the joy that I have
Sitting: Breath or Appreciative Joy
Sitting: Breath or Appreciative Joy
Take time to sit in meditation
Inquiry and Investigation
Inquiry and Investigation
Explore and Experience
If you need inspiration with this part of the practice, return to the Inquiry heading on the Title Page of the Practice Guide
RAIN
Recognize | Allow | Inquire | Nurture
Are we aware of the intentions of our communication around our harmful and repetitive behaviors?
How do you recognize when you practice self-defending, gossiping, or attacking?
How do you recognize when you practice listening to others fully, with compassion and kindness, before speaking?
Describe a time when your speech has been honest or dishonest
How has your speech been shaped by manipulation, omission, or straightforward lies that are told to both yourself and others?
How does engaging or refraining from addictive behaviors affect your tone?
Does untimely speech lead to harmful or repetitive behaviors?
Does participating in harmful and repetitive behaviors lead to untimely speech?
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Does it need to be said now?
Does it need to be said by me?
Renunciation
Renunciation
Practice Letting Go
Planning for Challenges
Make a list of the challenges I might encounter
For each challenge, list an action I can take to help handle it.
Refuge in the Sangha
Refuge in the Sangha
Practices that cultivate connections with wise friends and mentors
Practices that cultivate connections with wise friends and mentors
Meetings
Meetings
Attend and Befriend
Meetings
Meetings
Find more meetings to attend
Sart to participate in meetings by sharing or reading.
Find out if the meeting has an online discussion group on Facebook, Slack, Whatsapp, or Discord. Ask how to join.
Wise Friends and Mentors
Wise Friends and Mentors
Develop Deep Connection
Look for people who share is about how this program has helped them.
Look for people who talk about the practices they engage in between meetings such as meditation, inquiry, or talking to wise friends.
Get their contact information and ask them about the best way to connect with them.
Core Intentions
Core Intentions
Support the Sangha
Hospitality Practice
Hospitality Practice
Have a plan to welcome visitors and new members with a sense of Loving Kindness
Ideas include:
Have greeter volunteer/s be a resource before and after the meeting.
Include logistics in the opening
Invite others to read and share through direct invitation. (X, would you like to?)
Playlist
Connect with others who have traveled this path. Each of the links on this list addresses the concepts of this section. So feel free to start with any link. If none of these recordings interest you, then use the concepts listed under the Growth heading to search for talks from the Buddhist Sources page.
Playlist
Connect with others who have traveled this path. Each of the links on this list addresses the concepts of this section. So feel free to start with any link. If none of these recordings interest you, then use the concepts listed under the Growth heading to search for talks from the Buddhist Sources page.
Insight Commiunity
Insight Commiunity
Talk: The Parami of Truthfulness Spirit Rock, Matthew Brensilver
Talk - Right Speech - The 3rd Spoke on the Wheel of Dharma - IMCW, Shell Fischer
Talk: Deep Listening, Part I - IMCW, Tara Brach
Talk - Right Speech - IMC Redwood City, Gil Fronsdale
Article: Stop Arguing - Oren Jay Sofer
Topic - Wise Speech - Spirit Rock IMC
Topic - Wise Speech - IMC Washington
Topic - Wise Speech - IMC Redwood City
Retreats
The links to these specific retreats will be repeated throughout the Practice Resources section of this site. You can focus your listening on these talks as you work through the Recovery Dharma Program.
Insight Meditation Retreat 2022
Mindfulness Meditation and Heart Practices
James Baraz, Tempel Smith, JD Doyle
Spirit Rock Meditation Center
Secular, Academic, Therapeutic
Secular, Academic, Therapeutic
Secular | Academic
Secular | Academic
Talk: What is Right Speech? - SBA
Talk: Judgement and Non-Judgement - SBA
Talk: What is the Present Moment? - SBA
Talk: What does it Take to Really Listen to Someone - UC Berkeley
Talk - Buddhist Wise Speech: How Does it Relate to Free Speech? - SBA
Tibetan
Tibetan
Amplified Voices
Amplified Voices
Workbooks
Workbooks
Books
Books
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