WHAT IS A SPONSOR?
Sponsors are recovery companions who guide sponsees through CoDA's 12 Steps and 12 Traditions.
CoDA sponsorship is defined in the following literature:
- the pamphlet Sponsorship (CLICK TO READ)
- the handbook Sponsorship: What's in it for me?
- the handbook Newcomer's Handbook
Questions that may be helpful to ask members after meetings:
- What has been your experience with sponsorship?
- Will you share you personal definition of sponsorship?
- Have you participated in a step-study?
Each person's response is not the right or wrong answer. You can take what you like and leave the rest.
WHY NO ADVICE?
In CoDA, we have a strong focus on not giving advice. Not asking for advice and not giving advice can let us see how a safe, trustworthy and equal relationship feels. Instead, we focus on sharing our own experience and hearing the experience of others.
HOW TO FIND A SPONSOR
If you're looking for a sponsor, LA CoDA suggests reading the list of suggested Sponsor Characteristics in the handbook Sponsorship: What's In It For Me? (pg 8 & 9) and looking for someone who has the recovery you want.
It can take time to get to know someone well enough to ask them to be your sponsor. Talking with them after the meeting can give you a deeper understanding of the person. If you find someone that resonates with you, you can ask them how they sponsor and share what you are looking for before deciding to work together.
Other sponsorship options include: co-sponsorship, online sponsors and phone sponsors.
You can establish how long to meet, how often, ways to communicate in the week, the length of the relationship, etc. The list of questions on page 20 of Sponsorship: What's In It For Me? can be helpful to consider when setting sponsor / sponsee boundaries.
WHAT IS A STEP-STUDY?
Some members choose to go through their step-work in a step study, instead of with a sponsor. Some have both. A step-study is a group of members answering their step questions together. If you're interested in doing this, you can announce at your meeting/s that you're looking for members to participate. It can be beneficial to have a member who has worked through Step 5 to participate in the group to share their experience, strength and hope.
CoDA.org's SPONSORSHIP page has more info on: