List of reasons to stay married. Reasons to keep our family together. Thinking about what is best for us as individuals and as a couple, as business partners, as parents, as lovers. What is best for you? What is best for the children? What is best for me? I am seeking answers to these questions...
Original from January 2022
updated for v6.0002 11/14/22 1804
11) Reasons to Stay
What we have in common
I love you Sheila,
I love God and I am loyal to the end
Sheila is a believer in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
We both believe in the Bible.
Sheila you are consistent,
What I admire about you
you are a very hard worker,
you are not lazy.
I do love you and the children very much.
There has been no adultery. I think that's a good thing to point out.
Sheila does think of me when shopping.
You are a good gift giver as giving gifts is part of your love language.
You are a very good grocery shopper.
You are very sweet sometimes.
You do genuinely want the best for me, even though we disagree about what is best for me.
The future for our girls
Six years of marriage invested.
Finish raising Mia and Amelia to 18, halfway there, six more years to go.
I want to be there for Mia’s 15th birthday. (missed while in involuntary treatment)
It would be nice to grow old with you Sheila.
I do dream of buying a bigger house and land together for our family.
And having tiny homes on our property for family and guests to stay in.
Leadership traits: Judgment, Initiative, dependability, decisiveness, unselfishness, loyalty
11.5) Obviously, Something Majorly Went Wrong Here
Obviously, something majorly went wrong here, as detailed in this letter…
I list the possible possibilities as to why that is here.
I am a complete failure as a leader,
Because I am a weak and incompentent selfish man, or
Because I am twisted, delusional and misguided
Because we have totally different concepts of leadership
Because we have totally different expectations
Because we are “unequally yoked”
Because you do not trust or respect me
Because you do not want to follow me
So either I am a failure as a leader because of all that
OR
here is an idea, maybe, just maybe, perhaps, you,
Sheila, who is never-ever wrong about anything, is wrong here.
Who knows?
I do not have the confidence to accurately assess this.
Years of Sheila calling me a narcissist and a loser have me believing that I am a loser and a bad person...
