Roomate Fate
The fate of the compound's karma rests on the laurals of 2 socially detached people
Forcing change upon yourself is one thing, and often cited as one of the greater moments in a persons life. When that person has realized the patterns in the past have not or are not working for them, and they force change within their life to achieve a certain predetermined goal. Having change forced upon you by others is not the same thing. When others force change upon you based off their own need (for comfort, simplicity, money, love etc) the person on the receiving end always has a choice of accepting it or not. Within that choice is where i'd like to concentrate this writing on. As it's always been a battle within us all to roll over and accept the policy of change when not invoked by ourselves. Marriage is a key principal to that nomination of change and acceptance. Within that bonded partnership one must accept the change the other forces upon the other whether it's conscious, subconscious for the greater good or destruction of the relationship. Roommates are in a similar situation, removing the non-binding agreement of marriage that is.
Within my certain position i'm in, that of living with a married couple, and of those married the male roommate lives under the fallacy that the apt is (on a long enough time line) to be handed down to him, through his aunt. Using this as leverage often against any change invoked by me, the apt has seen substantial change when the male roommate moved in and assumed control of the apt. Assumption being the understatement as this writing is a rhetorical concept that of course, that is a choice by me. Removing the emotional outlet of the alpha male is important in regards to keeping and maintaining a relationship with a male roommate. As long as the roommate fills his obligation of rent, cleanliness, and respect to noise, kitchen, electricity and heating usage, there should be no factors other then added emotional drama caused more then likely by the two parties to begin with.
Using his marriage as leverage to mask his own discontent for society, and apparent lack of outside social constructs, the attitude manifests itself into a narrow dogmatic vision of his way. Years of amicable relation with the current male gets questioned by the introduction of a similarly socially retracted female. Within this relationship the two use their insecurities of themselves, and lack of life experience against the social constructs that represent a 'societal norm'. Within observation it appears the two roommates use each others lack of life experience and confidence (of traits outside the disciplined routine) as a reason for retracting deeper into themselves.
Years spent mocking my rotation of girlfriends to their face is now a forgotten memory for him. Questioning to their face their ability to maintain a job, clean up around them, vegetarian status, vehicles they drive and living conditions they were in before introduced to the compound was the norm. The roommate would use me and my friends and girlfriends as his social outlet quite often. Always inviting himself to breakfast, on the couch to watch a movie, adding his commentary into my relationship was always allowed on my end. Self invites to my social constructs was allowed since it was felt that the roommate But the same cannot be reciprocated back to him and his current relationship as it's seen as an 'attack' and i'm then apparently angry and yelling. But this is of course a defense method by the female to remove herself from any and all conflict that her situation has caused.
I question using all or any trump cards against the male roommate when he and his situation pushes me against the wall. We've lived together for a decade and know all of our past histories. My guess at his current willingness not "rock the boat" with me is his fear that all the past decade of his stale past will come to the surface in front of his very timid 'wife'. And of course, i'd be leveraging his past against his current and most males when insecure about their past actions will of course lash out against those facts and more then likely flat out deny them. Since he lacks the experience of an office job, or ability to maintain male friendships outside his living space he knows his retort would more then likely fall far short of his expectations against the argument. And more then likely will just wallow in the complacency that the apt will be his one day.. And time is on his side for that. Which is might be.
This dissertation is simply a reminder to myself. To be aware of how men change for something that isn't worth the change. Never had he pushed himself into difficult situations to see how he deals with life, his dating history in the last decade can be summed up to 1 female, in which he moved her in to live with me for a year (while I never moved any female in permanently). So insecure and grasping for anyone that's stand him longer then a brief conversation has been his search for years. So when he found a girl that has been so far removed from our societal norm in America, that he seems normal he of course married her. And I can never ever hope to get any logic in against that fallacy of love for him. Love... which has always been an interesting observation with them. How can two people who have displayed a past history of being rather sheltered in the matter of dating/love be so sure love is love? Especially when that love was forced into a relationship by marrying the female in order for her to get her GreenCard. Because the female in question needed a way out of her island of 600 people... No matter what apparently. And the 3 of us is the end result of all those fates coming into play. Yet 2 out of the 3 cannot see that we're all responsible for each others placement in that apartment. Which I cannot blame them for not seeing. As these two people make no attempt to place themselves in any new or unsure situations that have not already been scoped/checked out by others around them. Never having the faith to 'try something out for the first time" the two roommates seem content on sitting on yesterdays technology, choice in restaurants,
Secret lil games happen to gain leverage that roommates play, garbage responsibilties, dishes, cleaning, pets, etc.
co-workers
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Go mock my ex's for being a vegitarian again
Go mock my ex's for their job again
Change Answering Message
Change heat and not care about price
We used to turn the heat off during the day, but since there's someone here all day long we can't do that in the winter,a nd darren goes south for 2 days a week saving even more oil.
Accidently call her Robin Kosa