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Wife no longer interested in intimacy - My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me.
If the sizzle has gone out of your relationship with your spouse, restoring intimacy in marriage should be near the top of your priority list. A sexless marriage is usually a marriage headed for disaster.
Intimacy issues are a leading cause of divorce. Just look at all the resources aimed at helping couples improve their sex lives. From explicit video courses to Christian marriage books, the subject is always in demand.
So what can you do when faced with a marriage that seems to have lost it's passion? Well, every situation is different but these 3 steps should help most couples who are missing the intimacy in marriage.
1- Grit your teeth and accept the situation for a little longer while you try to figure out the real cause of the problem. You need to be able to stay calm and discuss the issue with your spouse. Listen to their viewpoint and be willing to take action if there is something you can do to improve the situation. It will not help the problem for you to play the victim, even if you feel like your spouse is to blame for the lack of intimacy in your relationship. Remember, the goal is to fix your sexless marriage, not win the blame game.
2- Focus on non-sexual intimacy first. Dr Laura used to say to act as though things are how you want them to be. This means that you make a special effort to treat your spouse with respect and affection, even if you don't feel like it. And you may not. Intimacy issues usually lead to resentment and apathy in a marriage. You have to push those feelings aside and focus on doing the little things that build intimacy and trust, like making sure you compliment your spouse or give them lots of non-sexual physical contact. Find lots of ways to show your partner that they matter to you.
3- Agree with your spouse to get intimate on purpose. That may mean you need to schedule a specific date and time for intimacy. That may not sound as exciting or romantic as passionate, spontaneous sex, but it is certainly better than no sex at all. It also can help you to get back in the groove as a couple. If it's been a while there are probably all sorts of psychological landmines to dodge and just deciding the question in advance removes a lot of the pressure from the situation. This also helps when your love life has taken a back seat to other demands on your time.
So if you are in a sexless marriage, why not seriously consider trying these 3 steps. They aren't magic and they do require some patience, but if you are trying to restore intimacy in marriage they can really help.
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I want you to think back to when you were just a wee lad... Who is your best friend in elementary school? Who is your best friend in middle school? What about high school? College?
Well, the way you've been communicating with your best friends your whole life is the same way you should communicate with your wife right now. Many men do not understand this or do not practice this piece of advice, and I personally feel that this is part of the reason why divorce rates are so high right now.
Of course, it's easier said than done, so as you continue reading this article I'm going to show you what you need to do to repair your relationship with your wife and take your marriage communication to the next level.
Sound good?
Is Your Wife Your Best Friend?
If you're like most of us, then you've probably had two or three "best friends" throughout the years. Even if you didn't know it at the time, your relationships with those people all had one thing in common...
You can feel safe telling ANYTHING to your best friend
Stories, experiences, negative feelings, happy feelings, criticisms, hard times, good times... You can share everything with your best friend!
So, how does that differ from how most men handle relationships with their wives?
Most Men Don't Like Sharing Negative Feelings
If you're anything like most husbands, you probably don't have a problem sharing all of the good times with your wife. I'm sure the you love telling her a good story and sharing good experiences with her.
After all, that's what marriage is all about, right?
Well, it actually goes deeper than that... A big part of a healthy marriage is having a trusting relationship where you're free to discuss both positive and negative feelings with one another. Just like your relationship with your best friend, your relationship with your wife should have no boundaries when it comes to topics of conversation.
In other words, if you feel there is a problem within the relationship, address it in the same way you would with your best friend.
Explain your problems politely, empathetically, and generally, and focus on finding a solution rather than placing blame.
What Happens When You Allow Marriage Problems to Fester?
I mean, do I really need to answer this question?
Here's a fun fact for you: Approximately 55% of people admit that they don't tell their partners about problems they see in the marriage, and the US divorce rate is 46%.
Which couples do YOU think are getting divorced: The ones that openly address their problems for the ones that let them boil under the surface?
The Importance of Friendship in Marriage
The fact of the matter is that no marriage has ever been all fireworks, all the time. 1 year, 2 years, 3 years, 10 years, 25 years go by, and things won't ALWAYS be exciting, or necessarily even enjoyable.
There will be problems; there will be down time; there will be sacrifice. That's not to say that you can't have an exciting and passionate marriage your ENTIRE life, but it IS to say that it will take work.
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Further Reading:
My Wife Doesn’t Want to Make Love
My Wife Walked Away From Marriage
My Husband Is Critical and Negative
My Husband Is Mad At Me Wants A Divorce
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