Younger children and School break

For many families, the school holidays can be a wonderful time to rest and recharge. But they are not without their challenges which is sometimes more noticeable coming back to school. This can be even harder on those children who struggle from mental health concerns. Let’s first understand why breaks are hard on their mental health.

Change in routine: Losing the predictable structure of school and other regularly scheduled activities gives children more free time. They may not be used to spending unstructured time and might need more direction or assistance.

Change in social interaction: Being on break from school can limit their time with friends. Spending less time with peers and more time with family can be a big adjustment for some. For children with social difficulties at school, breaks can be a welcome respite.

Marker of loss: Breaks that include holidays, particularly at the end of a year, tend to be reflective. Losses from the year or previous years can bring up grief.

Climate: Depending on the region where you spend your holiday, winter can be a time when people are getting less time outside, less sunlight and less vitamin D. A lack of vitamin D is associated with decreased mood. Treat this break as a good time to enjoy outdoor activities.

Seasonal pressure: Shorter breaks can feel time-pressured. There can be an urge to fit in everything before going back to school. Increased expectations to gather with loved ones and be part of seasonal activities can be challenging.

How mental health symptoms show up:

Young children might find it challenging to verbalize their emotions and inner experience and mental health often presents itself through behavior. It is helpful to pay attention to new behaviors or changes you notice on break versus when school is in session. Some behaviors to look for:

Trouble sleeping
Headaches or stomach aches
Doesn’t seem to enjoy things they used to
Seem sad, unhappy or crying a lot
Worrying a lot
Gets upset if separated from a parent or caregiver even for a short period of time
Have more outbursts or tantrums

What helps?

While there is no one-size-fits-all solution, some simple actions can have a meaningful impact. Try what works for your family.

Make a simple, sustainable routine for them. Include down-time and outdoor physical activities.
Set expectations clearly. Our little ones thrive when they know what to expect. It could be as simple as setting a wake-up and bed-time routine.
Involve them in planning. The best way to ensure that your children enjoy celebrations and activities is to ask them what they want to do. Get their input. They might need your guidance but ultimately the feeling of decision making and taking responsibility can be encouraging.
Integrate physical activity. As a family, play games, go on walks and run errands on foot if possible.
Leave room for down time. Have a list on activities they can easily do. Be okay with boredom.

Before you know it, they will be back to school. No matter what happens, take comfort that you did your best.