December Lesson: Respect My Boundaries w/ The Victim Center

Post date: Dec 07, 2020 5:32:29 PM

Hey friends!

For December we are doing something a little different. Normally we have a guest speaker come from The Victim Center in Springfield, MO to talk to us about being safe and having safe boundaries. Since we can't have a guest speaker this year, Ms. Alisa recorded her lessons so that we could still take the time to learn this valuable information! Thanks Ms. Alisa for doing this!

Below you will find the videos that we will be watching in class, as well as the questions that will be discussed following each video. Let's check out the lesson below:

Do you know who these people are?

Can you tell me how you know someone is a stranger?

-someone you don't know

-someone you've never met before

-someone your parents/guardians/grownups you live with don't know who they are

Is every stranger bad?

-No! not every stranger is bad, but is it okay for a kid in your grade to talk to a stranger?

-No way, that is not okay!

Is it ever ok for a kid in your grade to get into a strangers car?

-No way, that is not okay!

What if the stranger wants to take you somewhere fun, like to go get a treat, is it okay?

-No way, that is not okay!

What if a stranger invites you into their house or where they live, is that ok?

-No way, that is not okay!

How do we make sure we stay safe around the people we do know...like our friends and family? Let's say a friend wants you to come over and play...what do you need to do first?

-Go ask a parent/guardian/grownup for permission to go!

Do you think it is important to ask permission to go somewhere, with someone, even if you know them?

-Yes!

We are now talking about touches, touches that you do like and touches that you don't like. What are some touches that you DO like?

-hugs, pats on the back, fist bump, high five, tickles, etc.

Now, not everyone likes hugs or tickles...why do you think that is the case?

-because I am the owner of my body and I get to decide if I like these kinds of touches or not.

What should we do if we want to give a classmate a hug?

-we need to ask for permission and let them decide if they want a hug or not

How would it make you feel if someone did something to you, like give a hug, and you did not want that?

-sad, mad, upset, awkward, uncomfortable, creeped out, scared, etc.

Is it ok to tell someone to stop touching you if you do not like that touch?

-Yes! You are the owner of your body

What if someone older than you, bigger than you, like a grownup is touching you? Is it okay to tell them to stop?

-Yes! You are the owner of your body

What are some touches you DO NOT like?

-hugs, tickles, hits, punches, kicks, slaps, pinching, biting, pulling hair, etc.

Most touches that people don't like, they don't like because they hurt. Do you think all touches you do not like hurt?

-No...think about hugs or tickles...they don't always hurt but you may not like them.

Who is one safe grown up in your life?

-dad, mom, parent, grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, etc.

What if the person who tried to see/touch areas that are covered by a swimsuit asked you to keep it a secret, what should you do?

-ALWAYS tell a safe grown up and keep telling safe grown ups until these types of touches stop happening!

Thank you to Ms. Alisa for the videos and for the important information about safe touches and teaching us that it is ok to have boundaries!

Parents...I hope that this is helpful for you as well and if you have any questions please don't hesitate to contact me!