Fear will return to our lives again and again, until we achieve the most radical shift in consciousness one can aspire to.
Little to nothing will be gained from all the therapies and self-help books ever practiced or written. They are mere "aspirins" for a problem that remains latent, waiting for the slightest lapse or opportunity to entangle us once more in anxiety, worry, procrastination, and fear.
While it’s often argued that our concrete reality rarely manifests the worries and terrors we imagine… the truth is, no one is ever fully comforted by that argument.
In this life, everything is transient. Everything can collapse and be lost—perhaps, deep down, we all know this, and that’s why we "worry."
Paradoxically, the most "permanent" thing in your life is you.
People, dreams, projects, happiness—it all comes and goes. Yet your consciousness, your being, endures year after year, watching relationships, dreams, and ventures bloom and wither.
The reason we feel fear—along with anxiety, stress, and, for some, procrastination—lies in our identification with what we do.
Thus, we think: "If I can’t do this… I am nothing. I don’t exist. I die."
Our vocational achievements, personal milestones—even "family" or "partnership"—become Our Identity. We believe these things are or represent "Who We Are."
But as we said earlier… "Everything is transient."
When we fail to accept this and instead cling to these "achievements," it’s only natural to be consumed by fear. Every one of them can be lost.
An old song asks: "If I think I’m a carpenter, who am I when there’s no wood?"
A story tells of a pilgrim who sought wisdom from a Master. The Master taught him to play the flute.
When the pilgrim achieved mastery and played like no one ever had, the Master said: "Throw the flute away."
So remember: Everything can be enjoyed… in the Present—the only place where you truly can.
Enjoy… now! What you do, because everything comes and goes.
Breathe… because you are more permanent than all your dreams, relationships, and projects.
Repeat mentally or aloud: "I’ve only ever been playing different roles, all these years"
Dopamine and Serotonin Activation: Visualizing a more flexible, liberated identity may stimulate the brain’s reward circuitry, releasing neurotransmitters like dopamine (linked to motivation and pleasure) and serotonin (mood regulation). This shift can foster well-being and clarity, reinforcing the practice.
Amygdala and Fear Circuit Modulation: The amygdala processes emotions—especially fear and anxiety. Identity "labels" often carry expectations and fears ("What if I fail as a carpenter?" "What if I’m a bad parent?"). By disidentifying from these roles, you may reduce amygdala activity, weakening fear responses and allowing the prefrontal cortex (reasoning, decision-making) to take charge.
Prefrontal Cortex Strengthening: Visualization and meditation practices fortify prefrontal connections, boosting cognitive flexibility—the ability to reframe perspectives. Training your brain to see identity as "roles" prevents rigid self-concepts, fostering adaptability, divergent thinking, and creativity.