A poem I read says it for me:
Many things we need can wait, the child cannot.
Now is the time his bones are being formed,
His blood being made, his mind being developed.
To him we cannot say tomorrow, his name is today.
"Today" is the reason I choose to stay in the closet concerning my bisexuality--my child. I think it is important that my child should be raised by both a mother and a daddy. I certainly want to be there every day, to give him all that I have to give. Coming out could jeopardize the opportunity to be there every "today."
I am keeping most of the commitments I made to my wife, perhaps not all, but important ones, none the less. Why would I want to increase my freedom if that meant hurting my child? Since I love my wife and we have a commitment to raise our child together, it is better in my opinion to stay in the closet. My freedom seems to be a selfish desire when it is balanced with the needs of my family.
Each of us has to figure out our win/win situation and staying in the closet, while being a caring and loving father and husband, is it for me.
Good luck to all of us.
Jeff