Is it too much of a pipe dream in hoping to find a guy who:
-wants to be a friend, a pal, a buddy, a confidante first and foremost?
-wants to engage in the fine art of conversation to include truly listening and processing what you say?
-wants to share common interests and is willing to teach you new things as well as learn new things from you?
-has the wherewithal to get away from wife, family, job, etc. on occasion to spend some time with you?
-who has come to terms with who he is and accepts himself and is able to manage his guilt and doubts?
-who is sensitive, passionate about life in general, introspective, yet out-going, with a good sense of humor?
-is easy on the eye (not necessarily an Adonis or drop dead good looking)?
-wants a man-to-man "monogamous" sexual relationship?
-knows what another man wants sexually and is not afraid to explore; who is willing to please and be pleased?
-doesn't live half a continent away?
Of course what is not listed is "love."