Being labeled shy can hurt, but there's actually positives to being shy and sometimes it rubs off on others. Being shy isn’t your fault now and never will be. In the future you might want to overcome your shyness or express yourself to others, which is great. Just know that there is nothing wrong with being shy.
In my opinion I believe that it is perfectly normal for someone to be shy or have social anxiety. We all experience it in different ways and places. Yes, sometimes we do get labeled and the one hard thing about being shy is we take that into offense and put it in our self evaluation. The beauty of being shy though is we have the capability to overcome it at any time.
Being shy is perfectly normal because it makes you comfortable in your own way and just makes you who you are. Shyness is a trait that you should never feel you have to label yourself or others on. You should always feel that you can overcome any situation.
Being shy makes you comfortable in your own way and shyness is just your genes, the environment around you, and the way you adapt to the environment all working together to form you. Shyness should never feel like a major problem to you unless it turns into major anxiety that you can’t handle.
Shyness is normal and nobody should feel like they have to seek help or feel they are being judged because it’s just the things inside and outside of you that make you who you are.
Doctor Bernardo J. Carducci of philosophy says, “Shyness is defined as the presence of anxious reactions and excessive self consciousness and negative self evaluation in response to real or imagined social interactions.” Being shy in only some situations is not the same as expressing the trait of shyness.
Shyness is just anxiety you have in some situations. For example you might be shy around your parents, friends, or people you barely know, but when you do know people and you are already comfortable with them you're not shy. Basically, this means that you're only having a reaction to the situation. You might have a small reaction in this situation versus maybe other people having different anxious reactions in other situations. Being shy is only defined on how you evaluate yourself and how you react to situations.
Some people might compare shyness to genders like boys are more shy than girls or the other way around. The thing is some of that is true boys who are shy are known to have a higher chance in facing difficulties with friends than girls, but at the same time both boys and girls can feel peer exclusion and victimization. Shyness can start as a child from not being able to engage in enough interactions. Shyness in children with other children can sometimes be more of a concern than shyness with an adult, particularly men. You should never be concerned for a child who is shy though, because at that age they are learning to engage with others and life. No need to ever feel you have to seek help, all you have to do is not label them or call them out, talk to them, help them, teach them some social skills to give them that boost of confidence because that's all it is.
Some people might see shyness as a way of adapting to life and the world especially in young children. As age goes on we see yes it can matter a little more and possibly fall into a concern. You should never be worried though because you can always step in and be a leader to show them. The best thing you can do is not label them and call them out for something they’re maybe not.
The beauty about life is you can always find positives in things especially in shyness. You have to remember that being shy is normal, you're naturally born with it. It all depends on how you grow up you may not get out a lot as a kid or would just always hide in situations.
Being shy also has so many positives to it. Everything can come out good in life as long as you can learn to adapt the right way. As we know shyness is just a way of saying we adapt to things differently. Being shy brings out personalities and traits that maybe others who are more loud don’t have.
A lot of times we realize people can sometimes mistake shyness for introversion or social anxiety but there's a difference. Introverts are people who do not fear social interaction but shy people might like it but are held back by their self consciousness and self evaluation. Then you have social anxiety which means you show anxiety from self critical evaluation in some places.
Realizing that there is a difference between shyness, introversion, and social anxiety helps us to understand as shy people that yes we do have a possibly negative self evaluation but that happens to everybody so we can take it upon ourselves and not let it hold us back from situations.
There are so many good things that can come from being shy, some of which are advantages that others don’t have like you think before you act and tend to have a calming effect on others in situations. There's other positives like making deeper friendships because you value your friends, or you have the ability to overcome because without shyness you probably wouldn’t have developed the skills to overcome problems in life. Another positive is you experience rewards more fully which means you react more strongly to both positive and negative stimuli.
Being able to see that there are positives to being shy can give you a little boost of confidence. We understand that it is not just us that go through problems and self evaluate ourselves. Sure you might be different from people who are introverts or have social anxiety, but that's okay because that’s what makes us unique, which we can also call positives.
The good thing about being shy is we are able to observe. Being shy you don’t like to join in on the conversation, observing helps us to listen and think off of others. They also listen and having someone to listen to is always nice because you tend to trust them more and acknowledge them.
There are so many positives to being shy that not everyone realizes they’re going through. Sometimes having that person to trust or even being that person that others trust can really build up your confidence.
Having positives to look towards in shyness is always good. It sometimes can even help us to block out the negative evaluations we give ourselves. We understand that yes there are positives to being shy and good things to look towards but we always ask ourselves, is it a problem? Should I seek help? Why am I the only one experiencing this?
Being shy isn’t a problem. Everyone experiences it around the world, it's not just you. As a person you are able to grow off shyness and learn from it. You learn personalities and traits and rub them off to others.
Countries surveyed the percentages of people who experience shyness in their life. The results were mostly around 50%. The lowest percentage was from Israel and they were 30%. The highest percentage was 57% in Japan.
As different countries take data on shyness we see that we aren’t the only people in the world who experience shyness. You should never feel that you are alone and have to seek help, because you're not alone and if you feel you need to seek help you probably haven’t seen the light in your tunnel yet.
Research shows that people use the internet to hide. They hide behind social media profiles. They hide behind there because they are too afraid to express who they are under their name. This can lead to more than just shyness and instead social anxiety.
Nobody should feel that they have to hide behind a profile picture or the internet. Be who you are, show the world who you are. Yes it’s okay to be shy and yes it’s completely normal but hiding behind something doesn’t help you as a person. You are probably your biggest roadblock, so when you hide that doesn’t help you overcome your shyness.
The less confidence a child shows or feels is the more shy they get. There are many things that can cause shyness and most of them aren’t your fault like reduced social skills or even having fewer friends. Putting shyness as your fault can put you down more in confidence.
Showing your lack of confidence puts you deep down in the hole of shyness. It's not only your job to always try and stay positive but it's also anyone around them. Boosting someone's day with even just a smile or a complement can bring their confidence up little by little.
Everyone goes through shyness on their own, but there's always a way others can help by giving them a compliment or even just a smile and wave. Having that respect towards them or the sign of acknowledgement can give them a boost in confidence. You always have to remember that you are not going through shyness alone there are so many people around the world that are going through the same thing.
I believe that being shy is completely normal and nobody is going through it alone. Shyness is all about how you adapt to situations and others. Basically, it is your way of being comfortable.
I believe that being shy is normal because it's your way of showing that you're comfortable. I think that being shy also has positives in it and you should never feel like you need serious help until you have actually reached the end of the light in your tunnel. Finally, you're not the only one that goes through this, and there are tons of people around the world that feel the same way.
I think it's always important to acknowledge others and give a small gesture towards them. You never know what they are going through that day or what they’ve already been through. Be the light to their tunnel, help them find a way out.