Bully: Someone who shows an ongoing or repeated misuse of power in relationships, with the intention to cause harm.
Bullying behaviour: Acts of verbal, physical or social nature that cause deliberate or psychological harm.
Bystander: A person who is present at an event or incident but does not take part.
Cyberbully: Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place over digital devices like cell phones, computers, and tablets.
How to give an apology: 1. Think about what you have done and know that you have done something wrong
2. Say "sorry" and mean it sincerely from the heart
3. Change your behaviour
How to receive an apology: 1. Say with a strong voice "Thank you for saying sorry, I really don't like it when you _____. I accept your apology, please don't do it again and if you keep hurting me I will name it to an adult".
2. Don't say "that's okay" because what has happened is not okay. You have the right to feel safe.
3. Children have the right to not accept an apology.
Putdown language: Something that you say or do that is intended to criticize someone or to make them feel foolish.
Naming It: ‘Naming It’ refers to telling someone (the person, a teacher, trusted adult or parent/carer ) what is going on when someone is bullying or being violent towards you or someone else. It is about telling someone you trust when people are getting hurt, being honest, asking for help and stopping the behaviour.
Upstander: A person who speaks or acts in support of an individual or cause, particularly someone who intervenes on behalf of a person being attacked or bullied.
Responsible: Being dependable, making good choices, and taking accountability for your actions. A responsible citizen looks out for the well being of others and understands we all have a part to play in making the world a better place.
Safe: free from harm or risk : unhurt.
Learner: Children and teenagers learn by seeing, hearing, exploring, experimenting and asking questions.
Respect: Respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they're different from you or you don't agree with them. Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing. Respect doesn't have to come naturally – it is something you learn.
Major Behaviour: A major behaviour includes any of the following behaviours: Physical violence, abusive language, threats. harrassment or bullying, property damage, or repeated minors.
Minor Behaviour: These behaviours are usually handled immediately, respectfully and with minimal disruption to teaching and learning.
Physical: When people use force to hurt another person's body eg. punching, kicking, spitting, throwing things.
Verbal: When people use their voice to hurt another person eg. teasing, yelling, swearing and put downs.
Social: When people use the group dynamic to hurt, threaten and control others.
Emotional: When people hurt another person's feelings, or use fear to control another person eg. dirty looks, leaving people out, threats. Emotional violence is present in the other types.
Active listening: Showing the person you are speaking to that you are listening by validating and empathizing.
Circle Time is a teaching strategy which allows the teacher to explore issues of concern. Also, it allows children to explore and address issues which concern them. It provides a structured mechanism for solving problems, in which all participants have an equal footing
Check In: allow teachers to quickly and easily ask students how they are doing right now—focusing on students' well-being, learning environment, and social-emotional growth—and then use the information students share to plan school-wide or targeted supports in response.
Catch Up: Catch ups are used to allow to allow participants to share their week and how they are feeling about it.
Friendology:
Words from the heart: During catch up children are encouraged to use words from the heart to express how they feel.
Restorative Practice: A strategy that seeks to repair relationships that have been damaged, by promoting respect and empathy.
Positive Behaviour: actions that create a positive working environment and/or enabling others to work more effectively through what we say or do.
Safety Hand: Being able to identify 5 trusted adults who can be approached when in need of support. These include teachers, community members and close family friends.
Respectful Relationships: A core part of the curriculum that promotes and models respect, positive attitudes and behaviours.
Peer Mediator: A whole school program that encourages our older students to be visible during play times to help mediate small issues.
Good Secrets: A Good Secret makes you feel good, excited and comfortable and it has an end date. The person asking you to keep a Good Secret knows that it is okay for you to share the secret when the time comes. For example, you picks out a birthday present for your sibling and you get to keep the secret until you give the gift to your sibling.
Bad Secrets: A Bad Secret makes you feel uncomfortable or confused. It has no end date. It can make you feel afraid, worried, and/or scared to tell. The person asking you to keep a Bad Secret never ever wants you to tell anyone.
Language around Friendships - Becoming a friendship Ninja!
4 Friendship Facts - A set of 4 facts that help us have realistic expectations in our friendships so we understand what is normal.
1. No friendship (relationship) is perfect
2. friendships are different
3. Trust and respect are the most important qualities of a friendship
4. Friendships change, and that's ok!
Friendship Fire - any situation between you and a friend that results in negative feelings
Friend O Cycle - The normal cycle in a friendship that brings the friendship back to the healthy zone after experiencing a friendship fire.
Friend O Meter - a scale to identify healthy and unhealthy friendships
Friendship Ninja - A friendship Ninja is someone who:
surrounds themselves with friends in the healthy zone of the Friend-o-Meter
is kind and friendly to everyone
understands the 4 friendship facts
puts out friendship fires when they ignite
names behaviour
makes new friends and understands that friendships change
is someone you want to be friends with because they're true to who they are
Mean on Purpose: When somone is intentionally unkind to someone else.