Clearly, the church has got it wrong many times. People have been badly treated and the church has increased their trauma. There is a great deal to learn about interacting graciously with society. We need to heed the biblical teaching about how to relate to non-Christians. The following two scriptures provide a start.
Colossians 4:5-6
5 Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. 6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
1 Peter 3:13-16
13 Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? 14 But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. ‘Do not fear their threats; do not be frightened.’ 15 But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, 16 keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behaviour in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.
Again, though, Jesus is the example we are to study and emulate.
On the other hand, in an age when society is, in general, supportive of homosexual practice and there are increasing measures put in place to protect homosexuals, it requires unusual courage to swim against the prevailing tide and to voice what is unpopular.
There are huge pressures on Christians to compromise simply out of fear.
This is a testing time in our history. Will Christians remain true to what God says or will they follow the lead being given by society? History honours those who have remained faithful to their convictions.