Here’s the course outline for “Course 1 — Kunye (3 Days)”, designed as a deep foundational transformation program for values, purpose, meaning, and alignment.

Course Outlines:

• Core intention

• 3-day accelerated version

• Daily breakdown (modules, exercises, outcomes)

• Integration process

COURSE 1  KUNYE

“Coming into alignment with self, values, and direction”

Core Purpose of the Course

To help clients:

• Identify authentic values (not inherited or conditioned ones)

• Clarify purpose (what they are for)

• Understand meaning (what makes life feel significant)

• Align identity, decisions, and behaviour

• Create internal coherence (thoughts, emotions, actions aligned)

“Kunye” = togetherness / unity → internal alignment before external change.

 CORE OUTCOMES (BOTH 3 DAYS)

By the end of the course, clients will:

• Have a clear personal values hierarchy (Top 5 values)

• Understand their life purpose statement (draft)

• Identify internal conflicts (values clashes)

• Reframe limiting identity narratives

• Create an “alignment map” for decisions

• Establish a personal direction statement for next 90 days

 3-DAY INTENSIVE 

DAY 1  IDENTITY & VALUES DISCOVERY

Theme: “Who am I really?”

Module 1: Arrival & Calibration

• Present state check-in

• Life satisfaction mapping (10 domains)

• Emotional baseline scan

Exercise: Wheel of Life + Emotion Mapping

Module 2: Values Extraction

• Peak experiences analysis

• Painful experiences analysis

• Pattern detection (what matters most repeatedly)

Exercise:

• “3 peak moments”

• “3 worst moments”

• Extract repeating themes

Module 3: Values Hierarchy

• Identify 10–15 values

• Distinguish:

  • Authentic values

  • Conditioned values

  • Aspirational values

Exercise: Values sorting & ranking

Outcome of Day 1:

• Draft values list

• Awareness of internal conflict drivers

DAY 2  PURPOSE & MEANING CREATION

Theme: “Why am I here?”

Module 1: Identity Pattern Mapping

• Life timeline review

• Role identification (rescuer, achiever, avoider, creator, etc.)

Exercise: Timeline story mapping

Module 2: Meaning Reconstruction

• What suffering taught you

• What you naturally return to

• What people always ask you for

**Exercise: “Meaning threads” identification

Module 3: Purpose Statement Development

Framework:

• “I exist to…”

• “I bring value by…”

• “The impact I create is…”

Exercise: Purpose draft writing (3 versions)

Outcome of Day 2:

• Draft purpose statement

• Meaning themes identified

• Identity pattern awareness

DAY 3  ALIGNMENT & INTEGRATION

Theme: “How do I live this?”

Module 1: Misalignment Audit

• Where life contradicts values

• Energy leaks identification

• Relationship alignment check

Exercise: Alignment gap matrix

Module 2: Decision Filter Creation

Create personal filter:

• “If it aligns with my values, I…”

• “If it violates my values, I…”

Exercise: Values-based decision model

Module 3: 90-Day Direction Plan

• One focus goal

• Identity-based habits

• Behaviour commitments

Exercise: Commitment contract

Outcome of Day 3:

• Alignment map

• Purpose statement refined

• 90-day action direction

 5-DAY VERSION

This version adds emotional depth, integration, and subconscious alignment work.

DAY 1 LIFE STORY & IDENTITY LAYERS

• Life narrative mapping

• Identity formation points

• Conditioning vs authentic self

• Emotional imprinting events

Exercise: Life timeline storytelling + reframing

DAY 2 VALUES DECONSTRUCTION

• Hidden values vs stated values

• Family/systemic conditioning

• Emotional triggers as value indicators

Exercise: Trigger-to-value decoding

DAY 3 PURPOSE DISCOVERY

• “What breaks your heart?”

• “What pulls you forward?”

• Service orientation mapping

Exercise: Purpose archetype identification

DAY 4  ALIGNMENT RESTRUCTURE

• Cognitive dissonance mapping

• Behaviour vs belief alignment gaps

• Identity rewiring statements

Exercise: “New identity script”

DAY 5  INTEGRATION & EMBODIMENT

• Future pacing (next 1 year self)

• Anchoring exercises (somatic or NLP-style)

• Commitment ceremony

Exercise:

• Future self dialogue

• Written vow / contract

• Closing integration ritual

 CORE METHODOLOGIES USED

You can position this as a high-level coaching blend:

• NLP values elicitation

• Timeline therapy principles

• Narrative identity work

• Coaching questioning frameworks

• Reflective journaling

• Pattern recognition mapping

• Decision architecture tools

 KEY COACHING QUESTIONS EXEAMPLES

Values

• “What do you consistently fight for?”

• “What hurts when it is missing?”

Purpose

• “What would you still do even if no one paid you?”

• “What impact do you want to leave behind?”

Alignment

• “Where are you betraying yourself without noticing?”

• “What would your life look like if it matched your values exactly?”

 PREMIUM OPTION

 Includes:

• Identity reset ritual (closing day)

• Audio reflection exercises

• 30-day integration WhatsApp prompts

• Coach accountability check-in

A Life Satisfaction Map is a powerful coaching tool that helps clients assess how satisfied they are across the key domains of life. It creates awareness, highlights imbalances, and identifies where coaching can have the greatest impact.

Life Satisfaction Mapping Exercise

Purpose

To assess your current level of satisfaction across 10 important areas of your life and identify where you would like to focus your energy and attention.

Instructions

1. Rate your current level of satisfaction in each life domain on a scale of 1-10:

   • 1 = Extremely dissatisfied

   • 10 = Fully satisfied

2. Answer the reflection questions for each domain.

3. Identify your highest and lowest scoring areas.

4. Select 1-3 domains that would create the biggest positive impact if improved.

5. Create one small action for each priority area.

1. Health & Wellbeing

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How satisfied are you with your physical health?

• How is your energy level on most days?

• How well do you sleep?

• What habits support your wellbeing?

• What is one thing you would like to improve?

2. Emotional & Mental Wellbeing

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How often do you feel calm and emotionally balanced?

• How well do you manage stress?

• What emotions dominate your life currently?

• What drains your emotional energy?

• What would improve this area?

3. Relationships & Family

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How satisfied are you with your close relationships?

• Do you feel connected and supported?

• Are there unresolved conflicts?

• What relationship needs more attention?

• What would a 10/10 relationship look like?

4. Career & Work

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How fulfilled do you feel in your work?

• Are you growing professionally?

• Does your work align with your values?

• What frustrates you most about work?

• What would make this score higher?

5. Finances

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How secure do you feel financially?

• Are you managing money effectively?

• Do you have savings and financial goals?

• What causes financial stress?

• What financial improvement would make the biggest difference?

6. Personal Growth & Learning

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• Are you developing new skills?

• Do you challenge yourself regularly?

• What have you learned recently?

• What area of growth excites you most?

• What would move you closer to your potential?

7. Purpose & Meaning

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• Do you feel your life has meaning?

• Are you living according to your values?

• What gives you a sense of purpose?

• Where do you feel most alive?

• What would increase your sense of meaning?

8. Fun, Recreation & Adventure

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How much enjoyment do you experience?

• When did you last do something purely for fun?

• Do you make time for hobbies?

• What adventures would you like to have?

• What is missing from this area?

9. Environment & Lifestyle

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How satisfied are you with where you live?

• Does your environment support your goals?

• Is your life organized and manageable?

• What aspect of your environment drains energy?

• What change would improve your quality of life?

10. Contribution & Community

Rating (1-10): _____

Questions

• How connected do you feel to your community?

• Are you contributing to something larger than yourself?

• How do you help others?

• What impact would you like to have?

• What opportunities exist to contribute more?

Debrief Questions

After scoring all 10 domains:

Awareness

1. What stands out most when you look at your scores?

2. Which domain has the highest score?

3. Which domain has the lowest score?

4. What surprised you?

Patterns

5. Which domains influence several others?

6. What themes are emerging?

7. Where are you investing most of your time and energy?

8. Where are you neglecting yourself?

Priorities

9. Which area would create the biggest positive ripple effect if improved?

10. Which area feels most urgent?

11. Which area feels most exciting?

Action

12. What is one action you could take in the next 7 days?

13. What support do you need?

14. What obstacles might get in the way?

15. What commitment are you willing to make today?

Coach's Powerful Questions

• If this area improved from a 5 to an 8, what would be different?

• What are you tolerating?

• What have you been avoiding?

• What story are you telling yourself about this area?

• What would your future self advise you to do?

• What is within your control?

• What is the first smallest step?

• What would success look like in 90 days?

• What needs to start?

• What needs to stop?

• What needs to continue?

Final Reflection

"If I could improve just one area of my life over the next 90 days, the area that would create the greatest positive impact would be __________________ because __________________."

This question often becomes the foundation for a coaching engagement and helps clients identify the highest-leverage area for change.

Values Discovery Exercise

Purpose

Your values are the principles, qualities, and experiences that matter most to you. They influence your decisions, relationships, career choices, priorities, and overall life satisfaction.

This exercise will help you identify your Top 5 Core Values—the values you are unwilling to compromise and that should guide your major life decisions.

Step 1: Review the Values List

Read through the list below and circle, highlight, or select every value that feels important to you.

Achievement & Growth

• Achievement

• Ambition

• Competence

• Excellence

• Growth

• Learning

• Mastery

• Progress

• Success

• Wisdom

Authenticity & Character

• Authenticity

• Courage

• Honesty

• Integrity

• Humility

• Transparency

• Responsibility

• Accountability

• Fairness

• Trustworthiness

Relationships

• Belonging

• Compassion

• Connection

• Friendship

• Family

• Intimacy

• Kindness

• Love

• Loyalty

• Respect

Freedom & Independence

• Adventure

• Autonomy

• Choice

• Exploration

• Freedom

• Independence

• Flexibility

• Self-Reliance

• Spontaneity

• Variety

Contribution & Service

• Community

• Generosity

• Impact

• Service

• Helping Others

• Leadership

• Mentorship

• Stewardship

• Social Justice

• Contribution

Security & Stability

• Certainty

• Consistency

• Financial Security

• Order

• Predictability

• Safety

• Stability

• Structure

• Reliability

• Preparedness

Wellbeing

• Balance

• Calm

• Health

• Peace

• Self-Care

• Simplicity

• Vitality

• Wellness

• Mindfulness

• Resilience

Spirituality & Meaning

• Faith

• Meaning

• Purpose

• Gratitude

• Spirituality

• Hope

• Inner Peace

• Legacy

• Reverence

• Service

Creativity & Expression

• Beauty

• Creativity

• Curiosity

• Innovation

• Inspiration

• Imagination

• Self-Expression

• Originality

• Artistry

• Vision

Fun & Enjoyment

• Excitement

• Fun

• Humor

• Joy

• Playfulness

• Pleasure

• Recreation

• Celebration

• Adventure

• Enjoyment

Step 2: Narrow to 20 Values

Ask yourself:

• Which values do I admire in others?

• Which values do I try to live by?

• Which values would I defend?

• Which values make me feel alive?

• Which values do I feel upset about when violated?

Reduce your list to approximately 20 values.

Step 3: Narrow to 10 Values

For each value ask:

"If I could only keep one, which would I choose?"

Compare values in pairs.

Examples:

• Freedom vs Security

• Achievement vs Family

• Success vs Integrity

• Adventure vs Stability

• Wealth vs Purpose

Choose the value you would protect if forced to choose.

Continue until only 10 remain.

Step 4: Find Your Top 5 Values

Take your remaining 10 values and compare them one at a time.

Ask:

Which value causes me the most pain when absent?

Values that hurt when missing are often core values.

Examples:

A person who values freedom feels trapped in controlling environments.

A person who values connection feels lonely when isolated.

A person who values achievement feels frustrated when stagnant.

Which value consistently drives my decisions?

Look at:

• Career choices

• Relationships

• Hobbies

• Education

• Spending habits

• Time allocation

Patterns reveal values.

Which value would I teach my children?

Values we want to pass on are often deeply held.

Which value would I keep if nobody rewarded me for it?

This helps separate genuine values from social expectations.

Step 5: Define Your Values Personally

Many people share the same value but define it differently.

For each Top 5 value write:

Value:

Freedom

What does this mean to me?

"I have the ability to choose how I spend my time and make my own decisions."

How do I know I am living this value?

"I make decisions based on my priorities rather than pressure from others."

Step 6: Test Your Top 5

Imagine receiving:

• Unlimited money

• Guaranteed success

• Universal approval

Would this value still matter?

If yes, it is likely a core value.

Signs a Value Is Truly Core

A core value:

✓ Shows up repeatedly throughout your life

✓ Appears in major decisions

✓ Creates strong emotions when violated

✓ Influences relationships

✓ Remains important over time

✓ Feels part of your identity

Values Conflict Exercise

Many struggles arise when values compete.

Examples:

Value 1

Value 2

Freedom

Security

Family

Achievement

Stability

Adventure

Service

Wealth

Growth

Comfort

Ask:

• Which value wins most often?

• Which value am I sacrificing?

• Is there a way to honour both?

Reflection Questions

1. Which values immediately stood out?

2. Which values surprised you?

3. Which values come from your upbringing?

4. Which values are truly yours?

5. Which values are currently being honoured?

6. Which values are being neglected?

7. What changes would help you live your values more fully?

8. What relationships support your values?

9. What relationships challenge your values?

10. What would your life look like if your Top 5 values guided every major decision?

Final Statement

Complete the sentence:

"The five values that I want to guide my life are __________, __________, __________, __________ and __________."

Then ask:

"What would need to change for me to live these values more consistently over the next 90 days?"

This question often produces powerful coaching goals because values are the foundation of sustainable change.