Seven Last Words—
Father, Forgive Them

German expressionist Edvard Munch, Golgata (1900, oil painting, The Munich Museum), downloaded 1/21/2021 from Wikiart.

Published date 2/17/2024

When we oppress . . . 

By Amy Sander Montanez

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”  Luke 23: 34 

I hate Jesus movies. Even as a child, I found myself confused and disappointed by the cinematic portrayals of the life and times of Jesus. My first memory of a Jesus movie was George Stevens’ The Greatest Story Ever Told (1965). I don’t remember much about the movie, but I remember thinking it couldn’t be right. Even at age eight I knew Jesus lived a long time ago in a far away, harsh land, and this too pretty, too American movie didn’t convey that. About the same time my family watched Pier Paolo Pasolini’s The Gospel According to St. Matthew, and that Jesus did not feel right to me, either. When I was a teenager, Franco Zeffirelli’s six-hour Jesus of Nazareth depicted a British speaking, blue-eyed Jesus, and my pseudo-academic, arrogant teen-self could hardly stand to watch. After Martin Scorsese's (whom I admire) and Mel Gibson's (not so much) Jesus movies, I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t watch another one. I broke that promise in 2014 when I was invited to the premiere showing of Christopher Spencer’s Son of God. Although predictably disappointed in the movie as a whole, I left the theater with a new appreciation for one aspect of the context of the Jesus narrative: the Roman occupation of Judea. 

In this movie, Jewish life under Roman rule was emphasized. Although Jews were not forbidden to practice their religion, they were oppressed: taxed harshly, misunderstood, unfairly arrested and tortured, and in general tamped down. They were oppressed simply for being born a certain way, in this case as Jews. One has to have a fearful, hateful, vile, brutal heart to be an oppressor, and the movie did a good job of depicting this. The complete lack of compassion for and connection to other humans was palpable as the Roman guards did their job, violently keeping the Jews in line. The Jews were objects, not people.

I was also reminded of the power and greed the Jewish authorities had. Caiaphas and his council worked to protect all the wealth and power that was theirs. They were not acting out of love for their people or their religion, and certainly not out of love of God. They were elected rulers protecting their rule, their privilege, their wealth, and their status, all of which Jesus’ message unambiguously threatened. 

“Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”  In Spencer’s movie, these words were spoken by Jesus from the cross, with Roman guards and a few Jewish onlookers standing by. I am not a Roman soldier or a Jew who asked for Jesus to be crucified. But I know I am an oppressor when I put other people down, when I hurt them physically, emotionally, or spiritually. We are, each of us, oppressors, when we don’t treat other human beings with respect, dignity, and a sense of belonging.  

Remember these questions from your baptismal covenant? 

Will you persevere in resisting evil, and whenever you fall into sin, repent and return to the Lord?
Will you seek and serve Christ in all persons, loving your neighbor as yourself?
Will you strive for justice and peace among all people, and respect the dignity of every human? 

When these questions from our baptismal covenant cannot be answered with “I will, with God’s help,” we are the oppressors who need God’s forgiveness.

We are oppressors when we allow fear to rule our hearts and our decisions. I have heard it said that we can make all of our decisions from one of two perspectives: out of fear or out of love. “Father, forgive us, for we know not what we are doing,” when we make our decisions out of fear. Fear of losing our privilege, our power, our rule, our comfort, our assuredness, our religion.

Jesus didn’t say, “I forgive you.” He had already been accused of blasphemy for telling people that their sins were forgiven. Only God, the Jewish authorities said, could forgive sins. Perhaps he knew if he forgave them from the cross, it would be dismissed as blasphemy again. Or perhaps, more controversially, even Jesus would have to work through the arduous process of forgiveness. Either way, Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” He made it clear, we need God’s forgiveness when we make decisions out of fear, out of a need to oppress, out of fear of losing our position of power, out of a fear of change. The world is full of realities we do not like or understand. Our fear of them and our unwillingness to be challenged and changed by them make us oppressors. But the cross shows us a new possibility. Love is stronger than fear and life is stronger than death. We desperately need God’s forgiveness if we believe anything else.

© 2021 Amy Sander Montanez

Dr. Amy Sander Montanez has been in private practice since 1988. She holds a Master’s Degree in Counseling from Clemson University and a D.Min in Spiritual Formation from Graduate Theological Institute. In 2013, Amy’s first book, Moment to Moment: The Transformative Power of Everyday Life, was awarded Spirituality and Health’s Top 100 books of the year. Her newest book, LAUNCH: A Guide To Adulting, was written with her colleague Dr. Rhea Merck, and is an outgrowth of their very popular blog, messymarvelous.com. Messymarvelous.com is a new and lively blog designed to help with your messy, marvelous life. Also on IG @messymarvelous. 

Amy works with all aspects of women’s issues, emerging adults, couples and families, and grief. She is known for her work with clergy of all denominations and seminarians. Before Covid, she loved to cook and entertain, play the piano, listen to live music, ballroom dance, read, and gather with friends and family. Now she just cooks, reads, and watches too many hours of Netflix. Her husband, Nick, and daughter, Maria, are huge sources of joy in her life.

www.amysmontanez.com 

[A musical interpretation of "Father, forgive them . . ." from James MacMillan's “Seven last words from the Cross”, The Dmitri Ensemble (Clare College, Cambridge).]